You're still playing their game, you're living your life by their rules. Once you realize there aren't any rules and "success" is being satisfied with your own

You're still playing their game, you're living your life by their rules. Once you realize there aren't any rules and "success" is being satisfied with your own life then you may begin to forge a different path. Sadly, very few people go this route, but the few I know who have are profoundly content.