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>assisting those who have historically held the biggest educational advantages History is just that: history. A white male going to uni _right now_ hasn't real

>assisting those who have historically held the biggest educational advantages History is just that: history. A white male going to uni _right now_ hasn't really enjoyed those historical advantages; they were before their time. Yes there are other advantages in the modern world to being a white male, but there are also equivalent disadvantages, too. Easier to get power...but if you're male nobody is there to defend you or help you. Help yourself, defend yourself _and_ others, be the breadwinner (otherwise you're useless) "man up".

happythen 5y ago
Breaking news: life is hard for everyone. You actually have it easier, but not easy. Figure it out, don't man up. Shocking fact, caring about others might help fix yourself.
- zepto 5y ago
  Can you explain how this relates to the comment you are replying to? It’s not clear how it follows.
  - happythen 5y ago
    yea it's a basic situation everyone deals with, this person just thinks it pertains to males.
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    - zepto 5y ago
      That doesn’t explain your reply. Are you claiming there is no difference in how society treats males vs females? Why do you assume the commenter is talking about themselves? Do you understand what masculinity is? How about toxic masculinity? Are you male?
      - happythen 5y ago
        > Do you understand what masculinity is? This is the best question. Masculinity is just an archetype. It could have been three dudes standing around, "Hey you know, we are all strong, smart, and like to protect our families. I bet it's because we have these third legs, pretty sure that's it." And then we pass it down generations. Tell women the same BS about femininity. Letting just a few folks define what a gender represents, as if one side or the other does not share those traits. Just being human isn't as fun, I guess? Or maybe just the complexity of being undefined is too much for some folks, to know they could be contradictory, complex or different. Either way, masculinity itself is just kind of like a cult-y marketing tool. It's used to either make you feel bad or great, maybe apart of something, (that always ends well), but the people selling it, want it to define you. And if you buy into it, think there is something special about you because you pee standing up, and that makes you superior, that's toxic AF. And yes I am straight, white, and male, with a nice haircut and could tell you the 7 day forecast everyday of the year. Would love to hear your definition on masculinity and why you treasure it's meaning so much.
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        zepto 5y ago
        > Letting just a few folks define what a gender represents, as if one side or the other does not share those traits. If you think masculinity is arbitrary and that traits are not specific to a gender, then why do you argue that men should be denied the same supports that other people get at college? > And yes I am straight, white, and male, Why are you so angry at white men? > with a nice haircut and could tell you the 7 day forecast everyday of the year. What relevance do these have? > Would love to hear your definition on masculinity and why you treasure it's meaning so much. Asking you what it means to you doesn’t imply anyone treasures it’s meaning. You are reading that in.
        happythen 5y ago
        Happy Thursday buddy. The premise of your question doesn't relate to that last part, (masculinity vs men, different things) but I can answer the last part: they do get the same level of support maybe even better, but no, they shouldn't receive specific support reserved for folks with different obstacles. I like white men! Love everyone! I dislike excuses around "poor me"s from folks that lack perspective on how they have it better, (I did not say good, said better). And not all white dudes feel sorry for themselves and blame "society", or college, or women, or other skin colors, or etc... Those folks are awesome to hang with. I'll hang with anyone, but you'll get an ear full if you bring that stuff up and are a white dude, still friendly though. THE RELEVANCE OF MY HAIR IS EVERYTHING, I am in my 30's and it's committing suicide everyday, I'll talk about it while I still can. (You really hate my jokes, still like you though) I usually don't care if you don't answer my questions but I was truly truly hoping you'd answer what you think masculinity is, I answered for you, come on now.

happythen 5y ago

Breaking news: life is hard for everyone. You actually have it easier, but not easy. Figure it out, don't man up. Shocking fact, caring about others might help fix yourself.

zepto 5y ago
Can you explain how this relates to the comment you are replying to? It’s not clear how it follows.
- happythen 5y ago
  yea it's a basic situation everyone deals with, this person just thinks it pertains to males.
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  - zepto 5y ago
    That doesn’t explain your reply. Are you claiming there is no difference in how society treats males vs females? Why do you assume the commenter is talking about themselves? Do you understand what masculinity is? How about toxic masculinity? Are you male?
    - happythen 5y ago
      > Do you understand what masculinity is? This is the best question. Masculinity is just an archetype. It could have been three dudes standing around, "Hey you know, we are all strong, smart, and like to protect our families. I bet it's because we have these third legs, pretty sure that's it." And then we pass it down generations. Tell women the same BS about femininity. Letting just a few folks define what a gender represents, as if one side or the other does not share those traits. Just being human isn't as fun, I guess? Or maybe just the complexity of being undefined is too much for some folks, to know they could be contradictory, complex or different. Either way, masculinity itself is just kind of like a cult-y marketing tool. It's used to either make you feel bad or great, maybe apart of something, (that always ends well), but the people selling it, want it to define you. And if you buy into it, think there is something special about you because you pee standing up, and that makes you superior, that's toxic AF. And yes I am straight, white, and male, with a nice haircut and could tell you the 7 day forecast everyday of the year. Would love to hear your definition on masculinity and why you treasure it's meaning so much.
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      - zepto 5y ago
        > Letting just a few folks define what a gender represents, as if one side or the other does not share those traits. If you think masculinity is arbitrary and that traits are not specific to a gender, then why do you argue that men should be denied the same supports that other people get at college? > And yes I am straight, white, and male, Why are you so angry at white men? > with a nice haircut and could tell you the 7 day forecast everyday of the year. What relevance do these have? > Would love to hear your definition on masculinity and why you treasure it's meaning so much. Asking you what it means to you doesn’t imply anyone treasures it’s meaning. You are reading that in.
        happythen 5y ago
        Happy Thursday buddy. The premise of your question doesn't relate to that last part, (masculinity vs men, different things) but I can answer the last part: they do get the same level of support maybe even better, but no, they shouldn't receive specific support reserved for folks with different obstacles. I like white men! Love everyone! I dislike excuses around "poor me"s from folks that lack perspective on how they have it better, (I did not say good, said better). And not all white dudes feel sorry for themselves and blame "society", or college, or women, or other skin colors, or etc... Those folks are awesome to hang with. I'll hang with anyone, but you'll get an ear full if you bring that stuff up and are a white dude, still friendly though. THE RELEVANCE OF MY HAIR IS EVERYTHING, I am in my 30's and it's committing suicide everyday, I'll talk about it while I still can. (You really hate my jokes, still like you though) I usually don't care if you don't answer my questions but I was truly truly hoping you'd answer what you think masculinity is, I answered for you, come on now.