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My youngest (sophomore in college) has gone through some hellish personal issues over the past 4-5 years and checks the first two boxes in the title. This beha
by jcims 5y ago
My youngest (sophomore in college) has gone through some hellish personal issues over the past 4-5 years and checks the first two boxes in the title. This behavior has gotten pretty bad recently and I’m really struggling trying to get across how this behavior is perceived by others. I have some of the same traits in that when i was younger i would just leave during gatherings until people started calling me out in it.
This puts a different spin on it that might help me find new ways to help her see it objectively.
- drdeadringer 5y agoI don't see the problem with leaving when you're ready if that's before the party's over. Not "overstaying your welcome" goes both ways. It is legit to feel "I'm done here", say the thank-yous, and go. I don't understand. I'm open to understanding the other side of the coin.
- jcims 5y agoBy 'younger' I'm talking in my 20's and early 30's, and the gatherings in question were at my house. :) Fortunately my wife had the social capacity for both of us (and then some) and patience with my quirks.
- fxtentacle 5y agoIf you trust your guests - or have trustworthy friends over - there's nothing wrong with playing a video game or going to sleep before the party is over. I did that on a few parties which I hosted in university and I don't think anyone had strong feelings about it. I mean they still have each other to party so one guy less isn't much of an issue.