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Well feminization is the completely wrong word for one thing, since being feminine is totally A-OK and not anything negative. Ain't nothin' wrong with flowers

Well feminization is the completely wrong word for one thing, since being feminine is totally A-OK and not anything negative. Ain't nothin' wrong with flowers and dresses and whatnot even if people on this website might not like it!

ZephyrBlu 5y ago
Being feminine is not "totally a-ok" for men. Please talk to some men and ask if they enjoy being called feminine. I guarantee you most if not all (Straight) men would hate someone saying they're feminine. If you don't believe me, flip it around and think about how a woman would feel if someone told them they act like a man. Most would not take kindly to it.
- missblit 5y ago
  It's unfortunate the top level comment was flagged so I can't check exactly what it said, wasn't it about feminization of _society_, not men? My point was just that being feminine isn't inherently a bad thing, and also not the right word to describe society being overly sensitive. Not that men should be expected to be feminine or that that would be a good thing.
  - serverholic 5y ago
    OP here. Femininity can be toxic just like masculinity. Right now we have a society where masculinity is considered toxic and anything feminine is considered good and morally correct. It creates an imbalance, and that was the point of my post. Lets take mental health for example. If someone has triggers the feminine approach would be to comfort them and try to create an environment where that person isn't exposed to their triggers. The masculine approach would be to tell them to toughen up. Thing is you need a bit of both. You need to give people some level of support but at the same time exposure to their trigger can help them overcome it in some scenarios. Or in other words "toughen up". I see masculinity and femininity as a yin and yang type thing.

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Well feminization is the completely wrong word for one thing, since being feminine is totally A-OK and not anything negative. Ain't nothin' wrong with flowers

by missblit 5y ago

ZephyrBlu 5y ago
Being feminine is not "totally a-ok" for men. Please talk to some men and ask if they enjoy being called feminine. I guarantee you most if not all (Straight) men would hate someone saying they're feminine. If you don't believe me, flip it around and think about how a woman would feel if someone told them they act like a man. Most would not take kindly to it.
- missblit 5y ago
  It's unfortunate the top level comment was flagged so I can't check exactly what it said, wasn't it about feminization of _society_, not men? My point was just that being feminine isn't inherently a bad thing, and also not the right word to describe society being overly sensitive. Not that men should be expected to be feminine or that that would be a good thing.
  - serverholic 5y ago
    OP here. Femininity can be toxic just like masculinity. Right now we have a society where masculinity is considered toxic and anything feminine is considered good and morally correct. It creates an imbalance, and that was the point of my post. Lets take mental health for example. If someone has triggers the feminine approach would be to comfort them and try to create an environment where that person isn't exposed to their triggers. The masculine approach would be to tell them to toughen up. Thing is you need a bit of both. You need to give people some level of support but at the same time exposure to their trigger can help them overcome it in some scenarios. Or in other words "toughen up". I see masculinity and femininity as a yin and yang type thing.