There's no solution here. Everyone is debating what is offensive or not, bike shedding over subjectivity and emotion. Either you cushion the blow and do what t

There's no solution here. Everyone is debating what is offensive or not, bike shedding over subjectivity and emotion. Either you cushion the blow and do what the GP does and have the effect you mention, or they don't and come off as "offensive". It seems communication of any kind these days is a double-edged sword.