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Or, we become worse as human beings if we react with intense charged emotion every time a particular thing is mentioned, creating a situation where we can easil
by tomhoward 5y ago
Or, we become worse as human beings if we react with intense charged emotion every time a particular thing is mentioned, creating a situation where we can easily be baited into reacting, and where perpetual tit-for-tat outrage is normalised. Let’s try for something other than that.
- hdjjhhvvhga 5y agoMaybe, I'm not sure. It's not even about RMS. Imagine an interview with Rob Pike and the interviewer saying, "Tom Howard did so many bad things I'm ashamed to share his name." It's just plain wrong. You don't do these kinds as a decent human being. When you are talking to your colleague - fine. Even if the interviewee specifically asked your opinions on a person you hate, a well-behaved person would answer "I'd prefer not to talk about this" or "we're not on good terms", something like that. You simply don't do thing like this one publicly.
- tomhoward 5y agoI know what you mean, I really do. I've been spoken about in pretty harsh terms at various times, and yep, it cut deep, and I've also been sensitive to public attacks on others I admired, or even didn't much admire but could see myself in their shoes. So yep, I get it. But over time I've learned that if you do anything that challenges the status quo, you'll attract public criticism and worse. Some of it may be valid, in which case the target wins by learning from it. In other cases it's unfounded and cruel, and thus it reflects more on the attacker than the target, and the way to win is by being unaffected and just walking away. A sure way to lose is for it to affect your own sense of inner peace and react in a way that perpetuates the negativity.