Others have discussed a therapist, and while they do have professional training, one of their biggest values is talking to someone not in your social circle. I

Others have discussed a therapist, and while they do have professional training, one of their biggest values is talking to someone not in your social circle. It allows you to dump emotion and mental stress, without worry of peer group judgement. I think it's a good idea to share with spouses, but, also good to not dump on them. And each situation is unique. So if you do don't want to, don't. People used to dump on their priest, or their bartender. The therapist is sort of a replacement here. Last thing... regular talks with that outlet, does more than the talk overall. You've let stuff bottle up. Letting it out regularly helps.