A trick I use is to shift my mental framing of things away from this binary "should" and "should not". There's a mental oversimplification some of us do where w

A trick I use is to shift my mental framing of things away from this binary "should" and "should not". There's a mental oversimplification some of us do where we place expectations on the world, our product, ourselves, etc, and anything outside of those is unacceptable, intolerable, broken. This oversimplification is not sustainable in a messy, flawed world (or product (or self)). Instead I reframe things as "how they are" and "how they could be different" (possibly better, but not in a way where their current state creates cognitive dissonance). Things can be made better, and better, ad infinitum. But it's not a sprint (!) to some idealized destination; it's a migration, in a direction. Anyway, this helps me, hopefully it's helpful to someone else.