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okay, that's a good counterexample. I wouldn't expect you to be able to have a good relationship with someone who doesn't agree you should exist and/or your gen

okay, that's a good counterexample. I wouldn't expect you to be able to have a good relationship with someone who doesn't agree you should exist and/or your gender identity is real. but take gun control for example, which seems to be pretty high on the list. does it really matter whether a potential partner is for/against gun control? one person's opinion is not going to change the law of the land. I'd think it would only matter whether you could come to an agreement on whether there would be guns in the home you share.

klyrs 5y ago
> I'd think it would only matter whether you could come to an agreement on whether there would be guns in the home you share. That does sound like a dealbreaker to me. A gun collector isn't going to marry somebody who won't tolerate guns in the house, right?
- leetcrew 5y ago
  you can be against gun control without collecting guns. there are also gun collectors who are somewhat in favor of gun control (eg, "fudds"). my point is that many (maybe most?) political positions have very little to do with how people actually live their day-to-day and treat others in their life.
reccanti 5y ago
I think the problem is that we lump all these things together as "politics." This way, it's easy to bring up the specter of "we're too partisan these days," but if you look at the individual issues, it's a lot more rational. * If you're a woman who's pro-choice, would you want to date someone who might try and stop you from getting an abortion? * If you have LGBT friends or family, would you want to date someone who might be a jerk to them? * If you, a family member, or a friend is an immigrant, would you want to date someone who might try to deport them? In the past, I think a lot of people didn't interact with people who weren't like them, so it was easier to put aside these differences. Being exposed to more diversity makes ignoring these things less of a possiblity.

klyrs 5y ago

> I'd think it would only matter whether you could come to an agreement on whether there would be guns in the home you share. That does sound like a dealbreaker to me. A gun collector isn't going to marry somebody who won't tolerate guns in the house, right?

leetcrew 5y ago
you can be against gun control without collecting guns. there are also gun collectors who are somewhat in favor of gun control (eg, "fudds"). my point is that many (maybe most?) political positions have very little to do with how people actually live their day-to-day and treat others in their life.

reccanti 5y ago

I think the problem is that we lump all these things together as "politics." This way, it's easy to bring up the specter of "we're too partisan these days," but if you look at the individual issues, it's a lot more rational. * If you're a woman who's pro-choice, would you want to date someone who might try and stop you from getting an abortion? * If you have LGBT friends or family, would you want to date someone who might be a jerk to them? * If you, a family member, or a friend is an immigrant, would you want to date someone who might try to deport them? In the past, I think a lot of people didn't interact with people who weren't like them, so it was easier to put aside these differences. Being exposed to more diversity makes ignoring these things less of a possiblity.