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From my observation in my social circle, there are two pressures that forcing not having kid or more kids. One is support system and second financial stability
by jp42 5y ago
From my observation in my social circle, there are two pressures that forcing not having kid or more kids. One is support system and second financial stability to take care or kids.
First, with both partner working & almost no one to support(from relatives/close family) during first 3-5 years of kids. It's super exhausting and one starts having second thoughts about having more kids.
Second, People want good future for kids. Daycare expenses, school, college etc. general thinking is if I can support one child really well and not two then its better to have just one.
In my experience I have not seen anyone who genuinely dont like kids or regretted having kid even at their emotionally lowest point. It just above two primary forces, pushing them towards not have anymore kids.
- prirun 5y agoTotally agree with you. In the 60's when I grew up, there was one mother on our street who had a "great" job, some mothers worked full time jobs, some worked out of the house (ironing, babysitting, etc), but most with younger kids did not work. Each decade, women shifted more toward working outside the house, full time, and having good jobs on par with men. This has continued to where potential grandmothers also work, so cannot help with kids like they used to. Working has given women a lot more options than they used to have since they are not as financially dependent on men, but somebody still has to take care of houses and raise kids, and now that both parents usually work, this is a lot more difficult. We used to be able to have a decent family life on one income. Not so much a possibility now.