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To put a finer point on this, a very small percentage of people, when confronted with "you are being unreasonable" will react in a positive and/or productive wa

• xvedejas 5y ago
  Coming at it from the other direction though, the very small percentage of people who, in my experience, do have a good reaction to "you are being unreasonable", have ended up realizing that they were in a scenario where they needed to think about conflict resolution. This attitude, although rare, has been extremely useful. Maybe this suggests the robustness principle: "be conservative in how you behave but liberal in what you accept from others".
  • ozim 5y ago
    Yes I read that principle description and that was my first thought. One should not tell others that they are unreasonable and be reasonable enough to understand that someone might still tell them that they are, then act accordingly.
• zzt123 5y ago
  I’ve had the opposite in my social circle. People generally try to be reasonable and so that suggestion is extremely rarely made. When received, it tends to be positively received as a time to self reflect and evaluate. That said, the wording used is more like “are you sure you’re approaching this reasonably?” rather than as an assured statement of “you are being unreasonable”, and I feel that difference may be significant in terms of distribution of response.