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I sort of disagree that a hobby can’t be doing the same thing over and over. I know because it sure is for me. I was diagnosed with ADHD around 36 when I had my
by moksly 5y ago
I sort of disagree that a hobby can’t be doing the same thing over and over. I know because it sure is for me. I was diagnosed with ADHD around 36 when I had my first child and simultaneously was getting in to higher management, never before realising that my coping-mechanism had been going to be early. I mean, I knew it was a stress coping mechanism, but I only had to do it in really intense weeks, which was maybe 6-10 times a year, so it was just part of life.
Anyway, having a child destroyed that as well as my need for solitude to re-energise (another thing I wasn’t too aware or). Long story short I ended up with a diagnosis and a suggestion that I found myself a hobby, much like the author. I picked Blood Bowl which is Warhammer American football, and as such is a miniature hobby where you buy and glue together and then paint little plastic dolls.
One of the things I enjoy the most is actually putting the miniatures together, and while I do kitbash (creativity) some of them, the real mindfulness comes from the cleaning, the preparing and the painting the same red on 16 figures.
Years later I know that this is exactly why I mostly stopped programming professionally and got into management. I actually really enjoy programming, even if it’s the same stupid for loop over and over, what I don’t enjoy is co-operating with project managers and clients, constantly making creative changes rather than just implementing something. That sort of programming burned me out and that eventually pushes me into architecture and later when my bosses saw potential in me into management.
I can see how taking commissions for clay cups would be similar to that. But I don’t think that always making cups would not make it a hobby just because there is less creativity in it.
- starfallg 5y agoIt's surprising that the kinds of interactions you have in management is less chaotic and demanding than dealing with customers and project management. The highest stressors in my experience are the constant demands on your time, budgeting and evaluations.
- moksly 5y agoI think different people are stressed by different things. For me it’s having to juggle the demand of multiple people who have no clue what I do. I guess some people will find a similar challenge on management, but the difference is that I’m in charge of it now and through that has the capacity to say no or delegate. I’m sure excellent programming managers set up environments that aren’t as taxing as the ones I’ve worked in, but I’m not sure I’m even succeeding in it.