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"Other people hate their job so it's ok to hate yours too, suck it." What a stupid take. Is it so bad to want a better life? Yes, my life is _already_ better t

"Other people hate their job so it's ok to hate yours too, suck it." What a stupid take. Is it so bad to want a better life? Yes, my life is _already_ better than berries pickers, but that doesn't mean my concerns and pains aren't valid. We should level up, not keep everyone down because there's always someone who is having it worse than you.

sneak 5y ago
That's not at all what I got from their comment. I believe you may be constructing a strawman with your summary.
- quacked 5y ago
  Concur- I do use a pretty harsh tone when I talk about this, but it's definitely not what I mean to say.
quacked 5y ago
That's not actually what I'm trying to say, and I certainly never said anything about doing a job that you hate. Many people today seem to hold the view that they ought to find some sort of passionate self-actualizing experience from the work they do, which is an extremely limiting belief that also does a lot of mental damage to people who either a) can't get a job doing what they love b) get their dream job and realize they don't actually love it. Neither situation a) nor b) is actually a problem unless you hold a belief that if you're not doing what you love, something's wrong with your life. Doing "what you love" ought to be a perk for the lucky, not a basic requirement for employment. People need to try to do what they're good at that others find valuable; caring whether or not you "love it" or find it "fulfilling" is a luxury. The time to expect to love life is when you are with your family and your friends, not when you're at work. Nearly anyone who thinks that a job can give a fraction of the satisfaction that raising a family or spending time in their community is in for a world of hurt. There are certainly some exceptions, but if you travel around the world to hospice centers and ask people what they regret, very few say "I wish I'd worked more". If you can find a job you love, certainly do that, but don't hold the expectation that if you can't find a job that you love, something is wrong with your life. A tolerable job that allows you to make an impact on people close to you outside of work is perfectly acceptable, and a lot easier to find than something that you feel defines you that you're passionate about. "I don't go to a place called fun, I go to a place called work". - Some guy's dad in an article I read
- scambier 5y ago
  > If you can find a job you love, certainly do that, but don't hold the expectation that if you can't find a job that you love, something is wrong with your life Thanks for clarifying, that's indeed what I didn't get from your original message

sneak 5y ago

That's not at all what I got from their comment. I believe you may be constructing a strawman with your summary.

quacked 5y ago
Concur- I do use a pretty harsh tone when I talk about this, but it's definitely not what I mean to say.

quacked 5y ago

That's not actually what I'm trying to say, and I certainly never said anything about doing a job that you hate. Many people today seem to hold the view that they ought to find some sort of passionate self-actualizing experience from the work they do, which is an extremely limiting belief that also does a lot of mental damage to people who either a) can't get a job doing what they love b) get their dream job and realize they don't actually love it. Neither situation a) nor b) is actually a problem unless you hold a belief that if you're not doing what you love, something's wrong with your life. Doing "what you love" ought to be a perk for the lucky, not a basic requirement for employment. People need to try to do what they're good at that others find valuable; caring whether or not you "love it" or find it "fulfilling" is a luxury. The time to expect to love life is when you are with your family and your friends, not when you're at work. Nearly anyone who thinks that a job can give a fraction of the satisfaction that raising a family or spending time in their community is in for a world of hurt. There are certainly some exceptions, but if you travel around the world to hospice centers and ask people what they regret, very few say "I wish I'd worked more". If you can find a job you love, certainly do that, but don't hold the expectation that if you can't find a job that you love, something is wrong with your life. A tolerable job that allows you to make an impact on people close to you outside of work is perfectly acceptable, and a lot easier to find than something that you feel defines you that you're passionate about. "I don't go to a place called fun, I go to a place called work". - Some guy's dad in an article I read

scambier 5y ago
> If you can find a job you love, certainly do that, but don't hold the expectation that if you can't find a job that you love, something is wrong with your life Thanks for clarifying, that's indeed what I didn't get from your original message