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Disclaimer: not a parent. He's a preschooler, not a teenager or even a kid. Can't you just... not give him a phone/tablet except at specified reward times?

by piaste 5y ago

aidenn0 5y ago
I am a parent. You absolutely can. The kid will make your life miserable about it for anywhere from 4 hours to 3 months depending on how stubborn they are.
- persedes 5y ago
  dito, it's hard, but doable. We've gone cold turkey with the TV on our five year old and after a week or two he was much more tolerable and plays with legos for hours to keep himself occupied. He's still a 5-year old though, so removing TV alone won't help with that, you still got to parent / occupy him most of the time. It did however get easier to connect with him and reason about those decisions. We still watch stuff together every now and then (or if we really need to be focused on smth), but he's in a much better mood throughout.
  - tejohnso 5y ago
    >He's still a 5-year old though, so removing TV alone won't help with that, you still got to parent / occupy him most of the time Right. There's nothing quite as engaging as tv/gaming that he can just sit without guidance and safely do by himself for a few hours at a time while his parents are busy working. Probably comes down to lazy parenting.
- sfink 5y ago
  We do it by paying attention to how the kid's doing with it, and going through a cycle. He'll periodically get sucked too far into the YouTube (or ...) swamp, and we'll notice that he's more difficult to deal with, less interested in other pursuits, and is moodier and just generally having a harder time. We'll have a tough conversation where we lay out the situation, he'll melt down but will eventually accept that it's not working out, and we'll impose temporary restrictions until it feels like things are more under control. He'll quickly realize that going halfway is way too hard, and will regulate himself to a level much stricter than what we imposed. Then there's a fairly long honeymoon period where he's getting some exposure but not too much. Eventually the beast slowly takes over again, and we repeat. It's not fun, it's ugly to watch, it's hard to do, but it feels like it's working. As in, I truly believe he's learning better self regulation than I've ever had, and for better reasons. I'm just thankful my wife is both aware enough and enough of a hardass to pull it off; on my own, I'd do things too late and too extreme, and we'd just be two monkeys reacting to each other.

Disclaimer: not a parent. He's a preschooler, not a teenager or even a kid. Can't you just... not give him a phone/tablet except at specified reward times?

by piaste 5y ago

Disclaimer: not a parent. He's a preschooler, not a teenager or even a kid. Can't you just... not give him a phone/tablet except at specified reward times?

aidenn0 5y ago

I am a parent. You absolutely can. The kid will make your life miserable about it for anywhere from 4 hours to 3 months depending on how stubborn they are.

persedes 5y ago
dito, it's hard, but doable. We've gone cold turkey with the TV on our five year old and after a week or two he was much more tolerable and plays with legos for hours to keep himself occupied. He's still a 5-year old though, so removing TV alone won't help with that, you still got to parent / occupy him most of the time. It did however get easier to connect with him and reason about those decisions. We still watch stuff together every now and then (or if we really need to be focused on smth), but he's in a much better mood throughout.
- tejohnso 5y ago
  >He's still a 5-year old though, so removing TV alone won't help with that, you still got to parent / occupy him most of the time Right. There's nothing quite as engaging as tv/gaming that he can just sit without guidance and safely do by himself for a few hours at a time while his parents are busy working. Probably comes down to lazy parenting.
sfink 5y ago
We do it by paying attention to how the kid's doing with it, and going through a cycle. He'll periodically get sucked too far into the YouTube (or ...) swamp, and we'll notice that he's more difficult to deal with, less interested in other pursuits, and is moodier and just generally having a harder time. We'll have a tough conversation where we lay out the situation, he'll melt down but will eventually accept that it's not working out, and we'll impose temporary restrictions until it feels like things are more under control. He'll quickly realize that going halfway is way too hard, and will regulate himself to a level much stricter than what we imposed. Then there's a fairly long honeymoon period where he's getting some exposure but not too much. Eventually the beast slowly takes over again, and we repeat. It's not fun, it's ugly to watch, it's hard to do, but it feels like it's working. As in, I truly believe he's learning better self regulation than I've ever had, and for better reasons. I'm just thankful my wife is both aware enough and enough of a hardass to pull it off; on my own, I'd do things too late and too extreme, and we'd just be two monkeys reacting to each other.