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> It’s easy to think you understand the whole problem. You don't think I understand what's happening to me? Well, I do. I know exactly the problem. I've been
by ref1234 5y ago
> It’s easy to think you understand the whole problem.
You don't think I understand what's happening to me? Well, I do. I know exactly the problem. I've been looking for a solution for years. I think it's easy to judge people when they are vulnerable.
- adingus 5y agoWhen I read these comments I get the feeling you're not actually open to suggestions and less inclined to offer any help. Your situation might be tough but everyone here is offering their advice free of charge so it would help to stay open minded.
- ref1234 5y agoSomehow I find myself, yet again in the land of judgment. Once, I don't understand my situation, then I am being told I am not being open-minded enough. Well, my friend, I am actually here, posting for suggestions and I don't want this conversation shift to be a legal debate or to remind me that the advice is free of charge.
- sircastor 5y agoPerhaps I could have worded my answer differently. No one here is judging you. You asked for help, we’re trying to order it. What I mean to say is that when we’re struggling, or limited by our situation we can become myopic, and we don’t see our whole situation for what it is. We start looking for solutions to the symptoms we’re experiencing rather than that problem itself. If you’ve been looking for the solution for years, maybe you’re looking at the wrong problem.
- ref1234 5y agoAgreed. I am not claiming that I am on the right path. I just put so much information and hid who I am. so I feel if mentioned more, I'll be recognized and don't want that to happen. That's it, there's no other reason that prevents me from mentioning more.