People will go to any lengths to blame abuse on the abused instead of the abuser if it means they don't have to make changes to society :( The tendency of some

People will go to any lengths to blame abuse on the abused instead of the abuser if it means they don't have to make changes to society :( The tendency of some to frame this sort of thing as good for boys (a sign of maturity, manhood, etc) makes it worse, kids of any gender should feel safe and not be pressured by adults into doing something they don't want to do or aren't ready for.