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>You don't seem to care about actually understanding the other person's meaning. You're very clearly looking for a way to continue the argument and prove how sm

>You don't seem to care about actually understanding the other person's meaning. You're very clearly looking for a way to continue the argument and prove how smart you are, but I assure you as a (former) bystander that you're not succeeding. That's an interesting, but inaccurate thought. How will you go about proving what is going inside my mind when I engage in discourse? Go ahead, I await your proof that is my goal. In reality, I have no interest in how smart you think I am. >I tell you this because I've been there and it's not a good way to live, nor is it a good way to impress people. You don't know about the way I live, or who I've impressed or in what way I may have done it. I never claimed to be charismatic and I don't care about impressing you. It's very rich of you to make presumptions about the way I live my life. I haven't made any presumptions that you lead a life in "not a good way" because of our difference of opinion or presentation made in good faith on HackerNews, and I frankly find I'm quite taken back someone would be as foolish to make such an assertion. You opinion is duly noted, though I find it unconvincing. In fact, despite struggles I am very happy with the way I live my life. I find the way I'm living it to be good, and it doesn't require your approval. You are free to pursue your own happiness, and if you don't enjoy my discourse I am not forcing you to engage in it. I might add, you haven't added a single fact to this discussion, merely your ad hominem attacks on my character. I consider discourse purely driven in ad hominem (living life in "not a good way", wanting to "prove how smart") the hallmark of a weak mind. >I tell you this because I've been there You haven't been "here" with me. I'm not like you, and I never want to be, nor will be. >Read the two quotes at the top of this post, really read them, and you'll hopefully see what I mean. I hope you'll do the same, and understand what I really meant when I said I wasn't trying to convince someone who couldn't be reasoned with.

reificator 5y ago
Ten years ago that could have been my response when someone called me out. I typed the exact same kinds of things to the exact same kinds of callouts. Until one day when instead of arguing further I actually did sit down, reflect, and become incredibly embarrassed with my behavior. I wondered why no one else had told me how it looked or what it made me look like, but then I realized they had been. So that's all I'm trying to do now for you.
- quantumBerry 5y ago
  I'm glad you were able to look back on your behavior and realize what an embarrassment you have been. Here's my opportunity to tell you what you so wished to hear: I think in 10 years, you will look back, and realize your history and your embarrassment has repeated itself, and that you've not learned from your mistake. I'm definitely not "convinced" you've learned to read what others are saying, or really put much effort at all into understanding what they've said. I also hope someday you understand that it is indeed dumb to suggest people pretty much can't go to space, or to suggest that those in wheelchairs pretty much couldn't go in public before the ADA.

reificator 5y ago

Ten years ago that could have been my response when someone called me out. I typed the exact same kinds of things to the exact same kinds of callouts. Until one day when instead of arguing further I actually did sit down, reflect, and become incredibly embarrassed with my behavior. I wondered why no one else had told me how it looked or what it made me look like, but then I realized they had been. So that's all I'm trying to do now for you.

quantumBerry 5y ago
I'm glad you were able to look back on your behavior and realize what an embarrassment you have been. Here's my opportunity to tell you what you so wished to hear: I think in 10 years, you will look back, and realize your history and your embarrassment has repeated itself, and that you've not learned from your mistake. I'm definitely not "convinced" you've learned to read what others are saying, or really put much effort at all into understanding what they've said. I also hope someday you understand that it is indeed dumb to suggest people pretty much can't go to space, or to suggest that those in wheelchairs pretty much couldn't go in public before the ADA.