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I'm torn between feeling that I too am dealing with some degree of burnout and thinking that I just simply haven't been taking care of myself. A series of slugg
by caned 5y ago
I'm torn between feeling that I too am dealing with some degree of burnout and thinking that I just simply haven't been taking care of myself. A series of sluggish days leads to a pileup of work, the pile seems to grow exponentially with no end in sight, and my workplace is rather dysfunctional and lacking of a clear vision. It feels like burnout, because even if I am productive and aspects of the work are interesting, it doesn't feel like progress is being made. Motivation goes down even when productivity is good.
But I'm also staying up too late. I have poor sleep hygiene. I'm on screens until well after midnight, and a significant amount of that time is spent reading "news" - not consciously reading to stay abreast of what's happening in the world, but habitually clicking and clicking and clicking. I can't really blame my job for the need to work late, because I seem to take hours to really get on a roll in the morning, and the work demands necessarily shift into the late evening after the kids go to bed. It's a vicious cycle. I'm working, e-mailing and Slacking on weekends when I don't need to be, and I'm not maintaining clear boundaries at all. Personal relationships are suffering as well.
So though I kind of relate to the burnout narrative, to really frame it as such seems like a cop-out for me. Working from home is a tremendous privilege, and doing so in a functional way requires a lot of discipline. Maybe the regular hours, commute and confines of cubicle or office walls make it a lot easier to maintain that discipline.
Hearing all these anecdotes compels me to try and figure this out. Somehow I don't think taking time off will be the answer...
- jb_s 5y agoI'm at the end result of your situation now. I wish I'd gotten out from under it so much sooner. The death spiral really kicks off when you start losing efficiency (as you've described) and as a result there's always more work on your plate than you have the capacity to do. There's a paradox: the usual solution if you have extra work is to just push through it with some extra effort; once it's done you could theoretically go back to the usual routine. But your current predicament is because you've been working extra hard for too long already. You just go backwards if you try it. I've spent weeks and weeks trying to "catch up" on my current project - and the previous two projects - working after my kid has gone to bed, working again first thing in the morning, working weekends - it only gets worse if you keep doing it and you wind up with worse results (I've just now blown past a deadline myself). Trust me. My mental and physical health is fucking shot, I've got skin rashes, putting on weight and I've been giving too much parenting work to my wife... I'm probably going to be mentally fucked for weeks now. The solution is to reduce the workload. Drop some of the spinning plates, tell your boss you can't do XYZ in the allotted time, or just straight up quit.