I wouldn't put it so prudishly. Or rather: Paradoxically, what's truly prudish -- and I mean this literally, "overly prudent" -- is to short-circuit your sex d

I wouldn't put it so prudishly. Or rather: Paradoxically, what's truly prudish -- and I mean this literally, "overly prudent" -- is to short-circuit your sex drive with porn, because you fear the consequences of real sex. Lust is good. It helps you overcome social risk aversion, and bond with another person. But that's the point: You have to have those relationships. You'll be happiest if you have lots of sex, as part of how you form and participate in a committed relationship. And your "base" urges, far from being bad, can help drive that.