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The amount of anger and negativity in this comment is shocking. The work she does is often stereotyped as being "dumb" or non-intellectual. To fight that idea,
by nooyurrsdey 5y ago
The amount of anger and negativity in this comment is shocking.
The work she does is often stereotyped as being "dumb" or non-intellectual. To fight that idea, OP found it valuable to mention how smart she is and how these platorms provide a safe and profitable way to provide for her child.
Ask yourself - and I mean really ask yourself - what about that statement has you so angry?
- actually_a_dog 5y agoI think it's the implication that sex work is inherently beneath someone who is "brilliant."
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- dna_polymerase 5y agoYou got it. Drives me nuts. Like a computer scientist is inherent gold for society and everyone else has to justify their existence.
- myWindoonn 5y agoYou're so close to having empathy for all people! Just keep going: What if nobody had to justify their existence? Edit: Downvoters, try a little harder. Engage your emotional core. Really work those empathy centers. Think about it: If nobody had to justify their existence, and people just allowed each other to exist, then we wouldn't have to weigh whether sex workers are more deserving of rights than computer scientists. We could allow both; we could allow everybody.
- myWindoonn 5y agoSince nobody had the temerity, I'll answer. If nobody had to justify their existence, then our society would not need systems which destroy people. It's that simple, and the folks using downvotes instead of words should confront their biases.
- immmmmm 5y agoplease re read it, with the additional information in child message. i agree and i am a computer scientist.
- immmmmm 5y agoi was saying: 1) that she is doing sex work, because she has no choice to feed her son, given her medical condition. 2) on an unrelated note: she is a brilliant and very intelligent individual. 3) point 2) was emphasized because for a significant part of the population, these two are incompatible, which is obviously wrong. 4) these platforms, while far from perfect provides some safety to sex workers. this important and fundamental: the sex industry, be it pornography or other, is dangerous to actress, actors and prostitutes alike. many get raped and/or abused, for instance. 5) on yet an unrelated note that she is a loving mom. moreover, an ex gf of mine, a past sex worker as well, is also a loving mom. i added this information because both in english and french slang, if you're mom is a sex worker, you and her are not good person. i don't think these children can openly talk about their moms' jobs openly at school without provoking major backlash, if not legal actions. and we live in a quite liberal country. sorry not making all of the above clear enough.
- arodgers_la 5y agoIf she is restoring to sex work to feed her son, what is she spending the father's child support money on? That seems like the entire reason child support is required by law.
- jlokier 5y ago"Required by law" as not as powerful as it sounds. Law is not powerful enough to protect someone from a violent partner. Restraining orders don't stop violence from taking place. They only promise punishment afterwards. So you do not pursue a violent partner for child support, even with the law on your side. It is too dangerous. Online sex work is the safer option. Oh, also, you seem to have the idea that child support money is enough by itself for the costs of raising a child decently. It often isn't, you need another income source to cover it. In the example we are talking about, the person could not do a typical job, so they had to find an alternative and OF provided it.
- immmmmm 5y agoyes, thanks! i forgot to mention her mom is an hardcore and highly manipulative evangelist, as if life was not hard enough.
- whynaut 5y agoYou shouldn’t need to “excuse” sex work.
- adjkant 5y agoYou shouldn't need to, but on Hacker News I can't say I can fault this caveat getting ahead of some potentially nasty comments, even if in principle I agree it shouldn't need to be said.