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a good friend of mine is a sex worker, a cam girl to be precise, and uses OF as it is safer than other platforms. it should be noted that she is a brilliant ind
by immmmmm 5y ago
a good friend of mine is a sex worker, a cam girl to be precise, and uses OF as it is safer than other platforms. it should be noted that she is a brilliant individual and do this job due to severe psychiatric problems that prevent her doing more "normal" jobs. she feeds one child with this money, as a lot of sex workers that are also loving moms.
it is important that such platforms do exist (if they implement proper safeguards) and that these content creators are not stigmatized.
- dna_polymerase 5y ago> it should be noted that she is a brilliant individual it should NOT be noted. Too many good people died in the wars of past centuries to get us to the freedom and liberty we enjoy today to let any fundamentalists dictate what a normal job is and who works it. Sex work is work and if you dislike it you'd might enjoy Afghanistan these days.
- immmmmm 5y agoi know, unfortunately sex work is still highly stigmatized, including in western present cultures. you don't need to go as far as afghanistan, i'm back from eastern europe where my friends from the LGBTQ community are literally being beaten by neo nazi funded by putin.
- fenderbluesjr 5y agoIt is stigmatized because it plays a part in facilitating people's addictions and mental problems. Just like gambling, drug-dealing, snake-oil salesmen, etc. It's not all roses, that's for sure..
- mumblemumble 5y agoWe should try to read each others' comments in the most charitable light possible. In this case, I think the friendly way to interpret that comment is as an attempt to anticipate and pre-empt a very common and harmful misconception about sex workers.
- dna_polymerase 5y agoI'm not sure how else you could interpret it.
- isoskeles 5y agoIt comes off as strange to me because it doesn’t make a difference if a “sex worker” is intelligent or not. And this goes for any job that doesn’t require brilliance. Am I supposed to feel better for, more accepting of, more sympathetic to, etc. a person because of their intellect? And if I have a problem with sex work, it has nothing to do with how I perceive the intellect of the workers, so the pre-empting seems unnecessary. Maybe comments should read each others’ future, unwritten comments in the most charitable light possible. Otherwise it starts looking like we’re writing up preemptive strawmen. Also, it is quite clear that comment was written to elicit sympathy. I can see why someone gets angry when intellect is used as a justification for sympathy.
- clevergadget 5y agoIt comes off as strange to me because it doesn’t make a difference if a “sex worker” is intelligent or not. Tell me you don't understand sex work without telling me you don't understand sex work.
- immmmmm 5y agodoesn't require brilliance? appart from her deep interest in science, she became one the top twenty most paid porn actress worldwide. i don't think this comes out of pure luck. it is true that the intelligence argument was arbitrary (it is my assessment of her) and perhaps clumsy. but again, go have a look on your favorite social media how these people are considered.
- isoskeles 5y agoAnd for every one of the top twenty most paid porn actresses worldwide, there are probably ~2 million[1] who aren't that. I'm not saying your friend isn't intelligent when I say that sex work does not require brilliance, nor am I saying that intelligent sex workers don't exist. I am saying that sex work itself doesn't have employers screening candidates for their level of intelligence. This should be a fairly uncontroversial remark IMO. It's not strictly about your friend, and I'll take your word for it that she's quite smart. 1: https://prostitution.procon.org/questions/how-many-prostitutes-are-in-the-united-states-and-the-rest-of-the-world/ https://prostitution.procon.org/questions/how-many-prostitut...
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- nooyurrsdey 5y agoThe amount of anger and negativity in this comment is shocking. The work she does is often stereotyped as being "dumb" or non-intellectual. To fight that idea, OP found it valuable to mention how smart she is and how these platorms provide a safe and profitable way to provide for her child. Ask yourself - and I mean really ask yourself - what about that statement has you so angry?
- actually_a_dog 5y agoI think it's the implication that sex work is inherently beneath someone who is "brilliant."
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- dna_polymerase 5y agoYou got it. Drives me nuts. Like a computer scientist is inherent gold for society and everyone else has to justify their existence.
- myWindoonn 5y agoYou're so close to having empathy for all people! Just keep going: What if nobody had to justify their existence? Edit: Downvoters, try a little harder. Engage your emotional core. Really work those empathy centers. Think about it: If nobody had to justify their existence, and people just allowed each other to exist, then we wouldn't have to weigh whether sex workers are more deserving of rights than computer scientists. We could allow both; we could allow everybody.
- myWindoonn 5y agoSince nobody had the temerity, I'll answer. If nobody had to justify their existence, then our society would not need systems which destroy people. It's that simple, and the folks using downvotes instead of words should confront their biases.
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