Interesting. So far I've not encountered that effect. I wonder if it's a result of applying the formula mechanically rather than actually listening to and empa

Interesting. So far I've not encountered that effect. I wonder if it's a result of applying the formula mechanically rather than actually listening to and empathizing with the person the NVCer is talking to. Regardless, thanks for sharing your experience. It's something that hadn't occurred to me and I'm grateful that you shared it, as I now know to be aware of that as something that can happen and to watch for it.