There's something odd about communicating feelings without the thoughts that gave rise to those feelings. It seems like the assumption is that the "observations

There's something odd about communicating feelings without the thoughts that gave rise to those feelings. It seems like the assumption is that the "observations" directly give rise to the "feelings", which I don't think is accurate. It's just leaving steps out, which is kind of not as candid and forthcoming as a difficult conversation should be IMO. I think you should explain how the observation clashes with your expectations, so the person you're talking to isn't having to guess at that link between observation and feeling.