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Unlike others below I don't have an issue not being able to look at emails or work on weekends/evenings. I do have a real big problem forgetting about work and

Unlike others below I don't have an issue not being able to look at emails or work on weekends/evenings. I do have a real big problem forgetting about work and all its problems to solve. Sometimes, it's not even my fault - the brain wakes me up with thoughts and worries and nightmares. There's something structurally wrong here, I'd rather not focus on all the things that stress me. I find myself seeking out full distractions, like drinking or video games. Kratom helps. Meditation takes me back to a place where I think. I'd rather not think.

maverwa 5y ago
I feel you. It’s about the same for me. I can look at my phone, see work mails and teams notifications pile up and totally ignore that if I don’t want to look. Sometimes I want, sometimes I don’t and sometimes I read mail and decide to ignore them until Monday. But waking up and thinking about that bug or a solution for a difficult problem nervet stops. I think it may be something that happens when you make your passion also your job. I feel passionately about the code I write, the problems it solves or causes, and there’s nothing in my brain separating work from private code directly. It’s an extra step I have to do „manually“. But when reading the problems other described here, I feel very very lucky.
- redisman 5y ago
  What you could do is compensate for that by ending your day an hour early or by taking a long lunch break. You were working late or early unwittingly and solved a problem. I’ve learned to notice when I’m just spinning my wheels to hit that 8h for the day and now I just stop for the day when that happens. Then if something does come up I don’t end up doing overtime on top of everything. I don’t feel guilty since I get paid for results, not hours in front of my machine and because I know I can’t stop thinking about the problem in the shower or when I wake up in the middle of the night
  - maverwa 5y ago
    Yeah, that’s pretty much what I do. It’s hard to put numbers on those things but I basically do what you suggested. Works great for me, and my employer and team seem to be very happy about my results. What more can I wish for?
wolverine876 5y ago
> I find myself seeking out full distractions, like drinking or video games. Everyone needs a break but find healthy ones, where you feel better when the break ends (e.g., not usually the case with drinking). Constructive hobbies (e.g., music, building model planes, etc.) are good for that. > Meditation takes me back to a place where I think. I'd rather not think. Meditation, at least in forms I know, is being present in the moment with your emotions and leaving behind thoughts of the past and future.

maverwa 5y ago

I feel you. It’s about the same for me. I can look at my phone, see work mails and teams notifications pile up and totally ignore that if I don’t want to look. Sometimes I want, sometimes I don’t and sometimes I read mail and decide to ignore them until Monday. But waking up and thinking about that bug or a solution for a difficult problem nervet stops. I think it may be something that happens when you make your passion also your job. I feel passionately about the code I write, the problems it solves or causes, and there’s nothing in my brain separating work from private code directly. It’s an extra step I have to do „manually“. But when reading the problems other described here, I feel very very lucky.

redisman 5y ago
What you could do is compensate for that by ending your day an hour early or by taking a long lunch break. You were working late or early unwittingly and solved a problem. I’ve learned to notice when I’m just spinning my wheels to hit that 8h for the day and now I just stop for the day when that happens. Then if something does come up I don’t end up doing overtime on top of everything. I don’t feel guilty since I get paid for results, not hours in front of my machine and because I know I can’t stop thinking about the problem in the shower or when I wake up in the middle of the night
- maverwa 5y ago
  Yeah, that’s pretty much what I do. It’s hard to put numbers on those things but I basically do what you suggested. Works great for me, and my employer and team seem to be very happy about my results. What more can I wish for?

wolverine876 5y ago

> I find myself seeking out full distractions, like drinking or video games. Everyone needs a break but find healthy ones, where you feel better when the break ends (e.g., not usually the case with drinking). Constructive hobbies (e.g., music, building model planes, etc.) are good for that. > Meditation takes me back to a place where I think. I'd rather not think. Meditation, at least in forms I know, is being present in the moment with your emotions and leaving behind thoughts of the past and future.