This week I have had two of my few friendships hit the rocks who have approached me for money. One is pushing me to invest in his business, and one approached

This week I have had two of my few friendships hit the rocks who have approached me for money. One is pushing me to invest in his business, and one approached me for a reasonably large loan. I've explained to both that I don't feel able to, but I can tell that both feel I am being unreasonable because it's only $XXk which they know isn't that significant to me. I wish they hadn't have asked as it feels fatal for the friendships. I already feel a bit of an outsider for sometimes having money. Maybe all of these problems are in my own head..... Either way, the lottery winner had the right idea.