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Just start doing it, be the change and all that. I do it. Sometimes they answer, sometimes they don’t. Everyone here is overthinking it.

bityard 5y ago
I don't know if it's just an introvert tendency or what. I mean I get it, being so deep whatever project your working on that a phone call--even from someone you like--can seem like a burdensome interruption. But it does sometimes feel like something bigger has changed. When I was a kid, the house phone was almost _always_ in use at night and on the weekends. Various family members and friends called just to chat and catch up and BS about whatever was on the news. Birthday calls were placed and gratefully received. The teenagers in the house got in trouble for tying up the line all evening to talk with their friends even after having spent all day with them at school. Today that's all been replaced with texts and tweets and facebook likes and it makes me sad.
- joshstrange 5y ago
  > The teenagers in the house got in trouble for tying up the line all evening to talk with their friends even after having spent all day with them at school. They still do this, it's just over FaceTime/Discord/Zoom/etc. Also I don't see the voice->text move as something really that terrible. I have a discord with my close friends and we've essentially left FB groups for this instead. We can all share stuff and consume it on our own timetables instead of having to drop everything and engage at the exact moment someone wants to share. We can always drop into voice/video/screen-share if needed, it's really ideal for me and my friends.
- systemvoltage 5y ago
  Oh man, I am getting nostalgic about this. It was amazing to socialize without any formalities. Analog life is quite the thing. The funny thing is my dad used to complain how phones have ruined physical interaction. He used to have friends just literally show up at the house and see if he is available to hang. He thought phones ended that lifestyle and now he is glued to FB. God help us all...

bityard 5y ago

I don't know if it's just an introvert tendency or what. I mean I get it, being so deep whatever project your working on that a phone call--even from someone you like--can seem like a burdensome interruption. But it does sometimes feel like something bigger has changed. When I was a kid, the house phone was almost _always_ in use at night and on the weekends. Various family members and friends called just to chat and catch up and BS about whatever was on the news. Birthday calls were placed and gratefully received. The teenagers in the house got in trouble for tying up the line all evening to talk with their friends even after having spent all day with them at school. Today that's all been replaced with texts and tweets and facebook likes and it makes me sad.

joshstrange 5y ago
> The teenagers in the house got in trouble for tying up the line all evening to talk with their friends even after having spent all day with them at school. They still do this, it's just over FaceTime/Discord/Zoom/etc. Also I don't see the voice->text move as something really that terrible. I have a discord with my close friends and we've essentially left FB groups for this instead. We can all share stuff and consume it on our own timetables instead of having to drop everything and engage at the exact moment someone wants to share. We can always drop into voice/video/screen-share if needed, it's really ideal for me and my friends.
systemvoltage 5y ago
Oh man, I am getting nostalgic about this. It was amazing to socialize without any formalities. Analog life is quite the thing. The funny thing is my dad used to complain how phones have ruined physical interaction. He used to have friends just literally show up at the house and see if he is available to hang. He thought phones ended that lifestyle and now he is glued to FB. God help us all...