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I'm not so sure. It sounds like this person is articulating a deal breaker. It's not unfair or unreasonable to have deal breakers in relationships. Better to kn

I'm not so sure. It sounds like this person is articulating a deal breaker. It's not unfair or unreasonable to have deal breakers in relationships. Better to know in advance, right?

hugh3 15y ago
Again, it's all in how you phrase 'em. Example: I wouldn't date a girl who was vegetarian, who smoked, or who didn't shave her armpits. And that's fine. But if I gave my girlfriend a printed list which says: RULES FOR DATING ME 1. Do not smoke 2. Eat meat at least three times a week 3. Keep your armpits free of hair ... then she would rightly think that I was a complete asshole.
- VladRussian 15y ago
  it depends on who is the boss. Lets suppose that your GF gave your a printed list which says: RULES FOR DATING ME 1. Do not smoke 2. Eat meat at least three times a week 3. Keep your armpits free of hair ... would you think that she is an asshole? Nope. Instead, you'd most definitely think that she is a queen. Thinking back to the original blog and rules - well if your boss is an asshole who thinks about himself like queen - well, in that case such rules seems to be expected and there is no other way around except to change the job.
  - hugh3 15y ago
    it depends on who is the boss. Lets suppose that your GF gave your a printed list which says: ... would you think that she is an asshole? Nope. Instead, you'd most definitely think that she is a queen. lolwut? Dude, if that's how the power differential in your relationship works then you definitely need a new girlfriend. Or maybe she needs a new boyfriend. One or the other.
    - VladRussian 15y ago
      well, man, i'm happily married for a more than a decade, and enjoy my meat and non-smoking (did quit long time ago :).
- brown9-2 15y ago
  Why is someone else being a vegetarian a deal breaker for you? Why do you care what anyone else eats as long as they are healthy?
ratsbane 15y ago
Better to know in advance, sure, but he's saying if someone forgets to bring a paper or pen to a meeting that he might be unwilling to work with that person in the future. Knowing these terms in advance, I think I'd decline to work with him. "...or remind you of something I've already told you, you will not work with me again"
- alex_c 15y ago
  He says "frequently". People who frequently don't pay attention or fail to absorb information are a nightmare to work with.

I'm not so sure. It sounds like this person is articulating a deal breaker. It's not unfair or unreasonable to have deal breakers in relationships. Better to know in advance, right?

hugh3 15y ago

Again, it's all in how you phrase 'em. Example: I wouldn't date a girl who was vegetarian, who smoked, or who didn't shave her armpits. And that's fine. But if I gave my girlfriend a printed list which says: RULES FOR DATING ME 1. Do not smoke 2. Eat meat at least three times a week 3. Keep your armpits free of hair ... then she would rightly think that I was a complete asshole.

VladRussian 15y ago
it depends on who is the boss. Lets suppose that your GF gave your a printed list which says: RULES FOR DATING ME 1. Do not smoke 2. Eat meat at least three times a week 3. Keep your armpits free of hair ... would you think that she is an asshole? Nope. Instead, you'd most definitely think that she is a queen. Thinking back to the original blog and rules - well if your boss is an asshole who thinks about himself like queen - well, in that case such rules seems to be expected and there is no other way around except to change the job.
- hugh3 15y ago
  it depends on who is the boss. Lets suppose that your GF gave your a printed list which says: ... would you think that she is an asshole? Nope. Instead, you'd most definitely think that she is a queen. lolwut? Dude, if that's how the power differential in your relationship works then you definitely need a new girlfriend. Or maybe she needs a new boyfriend. One or the other.
  - VladRussian 15y ago
    well, man, i'm happily married for a more than a decade, and enjoy my meat and non-smoking (did quit long time ago :).
brown9-2 15y ago
Why is someone else being a vegetarian a deal breaker for you? Why do you care what anyone else eats as long as they are healthy?

ratsbane 15y ago

Better to know in advance, sure, but he's saying if someone forgets to bring a paper or pen to a meeting that he might be unwilling to work with that person in the future. Knowing these terms in advance, I think I'd decline to work with him. "...or remind you of something I've already told you, you will not work with me again"

alex_c 15y ago
He says "frequently". People who frequently don't pay attention or fail to absorb information are a nightmare to work with.