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Sadly I know girls who are using OnlyFans to keep a roof over their heads and stay out of abusive relationships. Whether we like what they're doing to make mone

Sadly I know girls who are using OnlyFans to keep a roof over their heads and stay out of abusive relationships. Whether we like what they're doing to make money OnlyFans was providing them a much-needed revenue stream. Now that's being taken away from them by the morality police who won't be affected by the consequences of their own decisions.

throwaway5752 5y ago
With all due respect, the fact that anyone is forced into porn to get housing be safe from abusive partners is the indictment of a society. I get that it's a de facto situation for some, but let's not drop the onus on "morality police", payment processors, and OnlyFans for a massive societal failure to help vulnerable people. You could take that argument as far as you want (prostitution, drug sales, etc). There is some level of dignity that everyone's entitled to. If someone does OF by choice because they love it, good for them. If someone is compelled to in order to feed their kids or leave an abusive partner, then we should all be ashamed of that.
- theshrike79 5y ago
  It doesn't have to be "porn". People are making huge bank with content you could post on Instagram without fear of being banned.
  - deleted 5y ago
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- beiller 5y ago
  You make the claim they are forced but do you have any sources for that claim? All I can say for sure is that now, they are forced out of porn. This problem is not directly a morality problem. It is a chargeback issue. More like chargebacks via stigmiziation of sexuality but that is just an opinion.
- handmodel 5y ago
  I do not consume OF but tbh if I was an attractive girl I would probably choose making 80k a year on OF over 30k a year as a hostess or factory worker or whatever. I don't think it is exploitative or has less dignity than these.
- throwaway0a5e 5y ago
  They're not forced into it the same way nobody is forced to be an under the table construction laborer. They just consider it to be a better all things considered way to make a living than getting a fast food job or whatever.
- SilasX 5y ago
  Agreed, I think this is a crappy policy and I feel sorry for those that would get hurt by it, but blaming it for the suffering of domestic violence victims is over-the-top.
- pessimizer 5y ago
  > the fact that anyone is forced into porn to get housing be safe from abusive partners is the indictment of a society. You're right, we should tell them to wait until society is fixed.
- paxys 5y ago
  A huge chunk of the planet is forced into jobs they don't like to provide for themselves and their families. What's so "dignifying" about a job getting humiliated by entitled customers in retail or waitressing for minimum wage or breaking your body doing hard manual labor? Religious morality is the only reason a much more safe, comfortable and lucrative option like OnlyFans is banned.
  - spideymans 5y ago
    Exactly. People talk as if these girls are oblivious to the fact that they can work some shitty minimum wage jobs. I totally get their mindset. If it wasn’t for my own residual sexual conservatism, I’d much rather be an OnlyFans sex worker than some underpaid wage slave.
  - throwaway5752 5y ago
    I think you should accept some people think of it differently. And let's be frank here. OF is probably a viable financial opportunity - on average - for a small number of more attractive that normal people, and it's probably weighted towards younger women. I'd love to have hard data to present to you, but I can't find it. I have literally zero problem with people who want to use OF to support themselves. However, let's agree 1) that some people for whom it would be a viable financial option find it objectionable and 2) it's a less viable financial option for some, even if they don't find it objectionable. I think that groups 1 & 2 in there should still be able to work a 40 hour job and pay for food and rent, and still be able to save something to retire if they want to. And they probably should fear starving or dying of exposure even if they don't have a job. Call it unrealistic, but I prefer to fix that problem, too.
    - ryanlol 5y ago
      > I think you should accept some people think of it differently But why? Because their parents told them so? Is there some fundamental reason to see this differently? Some cultures accept murder too, should we accept that some people think of it differently? I say fuck those people.
- radu_floricica 5y ago
  > If someone washes dishes for a living by choice because they love it, good for them. If someone is compelled to in order to feed their kids or leave an abusive partner, then we should all be ashamed of that.
- dogma1138 5y ago
  Women, especially attractive women always had this option, historically it was just usually done through marriage. Arguably one can claim that marrying upwards isn’t always bad and quite often they are loved and cared for but in the end this is nothing new.
- decebalus1 5y ago
  > With all due respect, the fact that anyone is forced into porn to get housing be safe from abusive partners is the indictment of a society. with all due respect, most people are 'forced' into some sort of labor to get housing or escape abusive partners. It's the way society is built. If it's sex work or not, that's a different story but not by much. Work is work.
- throw_m239339 5y ago
  > With all due respect, the fact that anyone is forced into porn to get housing be safe from abusive partners is the indictment of a society. I absolutely agree. A society where people have to resort to prostitution in order to keep a roof on their heads FAILED, politically, morally and culturally. In fact, that's exactly how things go in third world countries...
  - stevenicr 5y ago
    I'd like to agree in some way - but I wonder, is there any countries in the world where a woman can leave her husband, take her kids and have a safe place to live the next day? I know there are 'shelters' in various cities (and the one in my town has been over 110% capacity for like 20 years (every time I've checked) afaik) - but I mean they can move into a place and start working a minimum wage job and not worry about paying the bills for the roof / utilities / child car / rice and beans? I'd love to know about such places, I don't think this is possible in the US, and never heard of such options elsewhere, but could exist.
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- aaron695 5y ago
  With all due respect your opinion is that of almost all human beings. From the Taliban to Democrats to Republicans to Socialists to Libertarians. (except the aside about "If someone does OF by choice because they love it, good for them") So I don't see the relevance. OP offers a solution to keep the current maxima for these girls. Fight for their well being and ask OF and payment processors to let them stay. The best actionable plan from your comment I can see is, lets dump these girls in the worst of it so it shames people into improving society.
- s1artibartfast 5y ago
  The "morality police" are the ones who say that women must keep their dignity but live on the street instead.
- __MatrixMan__ 5y ago
  I'm ashamed to participate in a society where anyone has to do work they find degrading. We have the technology to eliminate the you'll-starve-if-you-don't-work dynamic. It's heartbreaking that we don't also have the political will to do so.
  - Michaelfonzolo 5y ago
    Pardon my ignorance, but when was it ever about technology? Seems technological progress has done nothing to alleviate the starve-if-you-don't-work condition. Higher industrial efficiency in the 19th/early 20th centuries came with the promise of less work and more leisure, but that never arrived. I'm not sure why, but I'm guessing it's an economic/sociological problem, not a technological one. Curious to hear what ideas you have enough.
    - __MatrixMan__ 5y ago
      I think we're in agreement. It's totally an economic/sociological problem. I was just pointing out that technology's ability to reduce scarcity keeps increasing--so as time goes on, our obsession with scarcity as a motivator is increasingly embarrassing.
- TeMPOraL 5y ago
  > There is some level of dignity that everyone's entitled to. If someone does OF by choice because they love it, good for them. If someone is compelled to in order to feed their kids or leave an abusive partner, then we should all be ashamed of that. Well, it's still more dignified than telemarketing - the worker, the viewers and the platform all benefit from the transaction, unlike telemarketing call centres, where the worker is paid to screw over people at scale. If you want an indictment of a society, I'd first focus on people being forced into jobs that involve hurting other people.
mzs 5y ago
Can they not setup an account on another for profit service which will commit to verify identity, age, and consent of performers?
- pault 5y ago
  Yes, in the same way that you can set up a video content channel on a site other than YouTube. It's not the hosting, it's the massive amount of traffic and exposure that can't be replicated by another service.
  - sdk16420 5y ago
    Have never used OF, but does it really have a good discovery algorithm? From the outside it appears that most new subscribers are from the links that are shared everywhere, similarly to Patreon.
ALittleLight 5y ago
I agree that payment processors shouldn't get to say what people do for employment or how people spend their money - but how is it that OnlyFans is keeping women out of abusive relationships? If they couldn't earn money selling pornography they'd have to return to abusive partners? OnlyFans is only a lucrative option for a small group of people - young attractive women. How is it that every other segment of the population can keep out of abusive relationships and beneath a roof (to the extent they can) without the benefit of OnlyFans?
twirlock 5y ago
I live alone, have no girlfriend, and want one. Hi.
TchoBeer 5y ago
This seems like an unecessarily cynical take. Do you think it's a good thing that people are forced to sell their bodies to survive? Obvious to me that regardless of whether or not onlyfans shuts down, we should have social safety nets so that these people aren't forced to do that.
millbraebart 5y ago
It’s up to them how they make money, but framing it as a “survival” tactic is frankly pathetic. Admit it is easy money as your own boss, but don’t try to play victim at the same time.
zapdrive 5y ago
Well, maybe they can start working and be productive to the society like the rest of us. Also, the fact that a girl can sustain a life just by taking nudes shows you how much different the both genders actually are. There's no equality. Also why is no one crying about wage gap in porn?
globular-toast 5y ago
Firstly, I don't believe you. I'm sure those girls have something to offer society besides showing their bodies for cash. They just don't bother trying because they don't have to. Second, OnlyFans is an abusive relationship. It's using women during the few years they are attractive enough to exploit the instincts of men. The instant their looks wear off, they're out.
- concordDance 5y ago
  They're working a job that requires little work for good pay, not sure how this is any more abusive than any other job without a career path. Note that OnlyFans doesn't kick out the older people, they just get less popular.

throwaway5752 5y ago

With all due respect, the fact that anyone is forced into porn to get housing be safe from abusive partners is the indictment of a society. I get that it's a de facto situation for some, but let's not drop the onus on "morality police", payment processors, and OnlyFans for a massive societal failure to help vulnerable people. You could take that argument as far as you want (prostitution, drug sales, etc). There is some level of dignity that everyone's entitled to. If someone does OF by choice because they love it, good for them. If someone is compelled to in order to feed their kids or leave an abusive partner, then we should all be ashamed of that.

theshrike79 5y ago
It doesn't have to be "porn". People are making huge bank with content you could post on Instagram without fear of being banned.
- deleted 5y ago
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beiller 5y ago
You make the claim they are forced but do you have any sources for that claim? All I can say for sure is that now, they are forced out of porn. This problem is not directly a morality problem. It is a chargeback issue. More like chargebacks via stigmiziation of sexuality but that is just an opinion.
handmodel 5y ago
I do not consume OF but tbh if I was an attractive girl I would probably choose making 80k a year on OF over 30k a year as a hostess or factory worker or whatever. I don't think it is exploitative or has less dignity than these.
throwaway0a5e 5y ago
They're not forced into it the same way nobody is forced to be an under the table construction laborer. They just consider it to be a better all things considered way to make a living than getting a fast food job or whatever.
SilasX 5y ago
Agreed, I think this is a crappy policy and I feel sorry for those that would get hurt by it, but blaming it for the suffering of domestic violence victims is over-the-top.
pessimizer 5y ago
> the fact that anyone is forced into porn to get housing be safe from abusive partners is the indictment of a society. You're right, we should tell them to wait until society is fixed.
paxys 5y ago
A huge chunk of the planet is forced into jobs they don't like to provide for themselves and their families. What's so "dignifying" about a job getting humiliated by entitled customers in retail or waitressing for minimum wage or breaking your body doing hard manual labor? Religious morality is the only reason a much more safe, comfortable and lucrative option like OnlyFans is banned.
- spideymans 5y ago
  Exactly. People talk as if these girls are oblivious to the fact that they can work some shitty minimum wage jobs. I totally get their mindset. If it wasn’t for my own residual sexual conservatism, I’d much rather be an OnlyFans sex worker than some underpaid wage slave.
- throwaway5752 5y ago
  I think you should accept some people think of it differently. And let's be frank here. OF is probably a viable financial opportunity - on average - for a small number of more attractive that normal people, and it's probably weighted towards younger women. I'd love to have hard data to present to you, but I can't find it. I have literally zero problem with people who want to use OF to support themselves. However, let's agree 1) that some people for whom it would be a viable financial option find it objectionable and 2) it's a less viable financial option for some, even if they don't find it objectionable. I think that groups 1 & 2 in there should still be able to work a 40 hour job and pay for food and rent, and still be able to save something to retire if they want to. And they probably should fear starving or dying of exposure even if they don't have a job. Call it unrealistic, but I prefer to fix that problem, too.
  - ryanlol 5y ago
    > I think you should accept some people think of it differently But why? Because their parents told them so? Is there some fundamental reason to see this differently? Some cultures accept murder too, should we accept that some people think of it differently? I say fuck those people.
radu_floricica 5y ago
> If someone washes dishes for a living by choice because they love it, good for them. If someone is compelled to in order to feed their kids or leave an abusive partner, then we should all be ashamed of that.
dogma1138 5y ago
Women, especially attractive women always had this option, historically it was just usually done through marriage. Arguably one can claim that marrying upwards isn’t always bad and quite often they are loved and cared for but in the end this is nothing new.
decebalus1 5y ago
> With all due respect, the fact that anyone is forced into porn to get housing be safe from abusive partners is the indictment of a society. with all due respect, most people are 'forced' into some sort of labor to get housing or escape abusive partners. It's the way society is built. If it's sex work or not, that's a different story but not by much. Work is work.
throw_m239339 5y ago
> With all due respect, the fact that anyone is forced into porn to get housing be safe from abusive partners is the indictment of a society. I absolutely agree. A society where people have to resort to prostitution in order to keep a roof on their heads FAILED, politically, morally and culturally. In fact, that's exactly how things go in third world countries...
- stevenicr 5y ago
  I'd like to agree in some way - but I wonder, is there any countries in the world where a woman can leave her husband, take her kids and have a safe place to live the next day? I know there are 'shelters' in various cities (and the one in my town has been over 110% capacity for like 20 years (every time I've checked) afaik) - but I mean they can move into a place and start working a minimum wage job and not worry about paying the bills for the roof / utilities / child car / rice and beans? I'd love to know about such places, I don't think this is possible in the US, and never heard of such options elsewhere, but could exist.
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aaron695 5y ago
With all due respect your opinion is that of almost all human beings. From the Taliban to Democrats to Republicans to Socialists to Libertarians. (except the aside about "If someone does OF by choice because they love it, good for them") So I don't see the relevance. OP offers a solution to keep the current maxima for these girls. Fight for their well being and ask OF and payment processors to let them stay. The best actionable plan from your comment I can see is, lets dump these girls in the worst of it so it shames people into improving society.
s1artibartfast 5y ago
The "morality police" are the ones who say that women must keep their dignity but live on the street instead.
__MatrixMan__ 5y ago
I'm ashamed to participate in a society where anyone has to do work they find degrading. We have the technology to eliminate the you'll-starve-if-you-don't-work dynamic. It's heartbreaking that we don't also have the political will to do so.
- Michaelfonzolo 5y ago
  Pardon my ignorance, but when was it ever about technology? Seems technological progress has done nothing to alleviate the starve-if-you-don't-work condition. Higher industrial efficiency in the 19th/early 20th centuries came with the promise of less work and more leisure, but that never arrived. I'm not sure why, but I'm guessing it's an economic/sociological problem, not a technological one. Curious to hear what ideas you have enough.
  - __MatrixMan__ 5y ago
    I think we're in agreement. It's totally an economic/sociological problem. I was just pointing out that technology's ability to reduce scarcity keeps increasing--so as time goes on, our obsession with scarcity as a motivator is increasingly embarrassing.
TeMPOraL 5y ago
> There is some level of dignity that everyone's entitled to. If someone does OF by choice because they love it, good for them. If someone is compelled to in order to feed their kids or leave an abusive partner, then we should all be ashamed of that. Well, it's still more dignified than telemarketing - the worker, the viewers and the platform all benefit from the transaction, unlike telemarketing call centres, where the worker is paid to screw over people at scale. If you want an indictment of a society, I'd first focus on people being forced into jobs that involve hurting other people.

mzs 5y ago

Can they not setup an account on another for profit service which will commit to verify identity, age, and consent of performers?

pault 5y ago
Yes, in the same way that you can set up a video content channel on a site other than YouTube. It's not the hosting, it's the massive amount of traffic and exposure that can't be replicated by another service.
- sdk16420 5y ago
  Have never used OF, but does it really have a good discovery algorithm? From the outside it appears that most new subscribers are from the links that are shared everywhere, similarly to Patreon.

ALittleLight 5y ago

I agree that payment processors shouldn't get to say what people do for employment or how people spend their money - but how is it that OnlyFans is keeping women out of abusive relationships? If they couldn't earn money selling pornography they'd have to return to abusive partners? OnlyFans is only a lucrative option for a small group of people - young attractive women. How is it that every other segment of the population can keep out of abusive relationships and beneath a roof (to the extent they can) without the benefit of OnlyFans?

twirlock 5y ago

I live alone, have no girlfriend, and want one. Hi.

TchoBeer 5y ago

This seems like an unecessarily cynical take. Do you think it's a good thing that people are forced to sell their bodies to survive? Obvious to me that regardless of whether or not onlyfans shuts down, we should have social safety nets so that these people aren't forced to do that.

millbraebart 5y ago

It’s up to them how they make money, but framing it as a “survival” tactic is frankly pathetic. Admit it is easy money as your own boss, but don’t try to play victim at the same time.

zapdrive 5y ago

Well, maybe they can start working and be productive to the society like the rest of us. Also, the fact that a girl can sustain a life just by taking nudes shows you how much different the both genders actually are. There's no equality. Also why is no one crying about wage gap in porn?

globular-toast 5y ago

Firstly, I don't believe you. I'm sure those girls have something to offer society besides showing their bodies for cash. They just don't bother trying because they don't have to. Second, OnlyFans is an abusive relationship. It's using women during the few years they are attractive enough to exploit the instincts of men. The instant their looks wear off, they're out.

concordDance 5y ago
They're working a job that requires little work for good pay, not sure how this is any more abusive than any other job without a career path. Note that OnlyFans doesn't kick out the older people, they just get less popular.