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get a roommate. roommates are a critical social developmental step in your life. They teach you how to negotiate boundaries without a direct authority figure.

get a roommate. roommates are a critical social developmental step in your life. They teach you how to negotiate boundaries without a direct authority figure. They teach you how to live in a common space with somebody else. roommates teach you that you must be responsible for your actions which affect the other people who live with you. roommates teach you the importance of financial responsibility because when the rent is due you both need to pay up. You may be lazy You may not want to do the dishes, but you know if you take that messy ass plate and you just throw it in the sink it will become a mountain of dirty ass shit and you owe it to somebody else to do your part. If both of you hold up your end of the bargain and perform 3 seconds of work to place that dish in the dishwasher it avoids this tragedy of the commons. roommates teach you that self-discipline is critical for a tolerable society.

bawolff 5y ago
? In a comparison between having a roommate and living alone, i think living alone is more responsibility. There's nobody to call you on your BS when you live alone, just yourself. E.g. Forget to pay your share of the rent when you live with a roommate? Room-mate yells at you. When you live alone you get an eviction notice. Self-discipline is about the self after all. If you need another person there to be disciplined, then you are clearly not self-disciplined. (That said, nothing wrong with roommates, it often makes financial sense and some people like having them, i just dont see the connection to responsibility)
- 1experience 5y ago
  Relevant: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9OF06n1jNkM https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9OF06n1jNkM
alexgmcm 5y ago
I mean, don't people learn that at University when they have to live with others? Or maybe if they are in their first job? But when housing costs are such that you have people in their late 20's and early 30's still living with roommates it seems like a societal problem.

bawolff 5y ago

? In a comparison between having a roommate and living alone, i think living alone is more responsibility. There's nobody to call you on your BS when you live alone, just yourself. E.g. Forget to pay your share of the rent when you live with a roommate? Room-mate yells at you. When you live alone you get an eviction notice. Self-discipline is about the self after all. If you need another person there to be disciplined, then you are clearly not self-disciplined. (That said, nothing wrong with roommates, it often makes financial sense and some people like having them, i just dont see the connection to responsibility)

1experience 5y ago
Relevant: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9OF06n1jNkM https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9OF06n1jNkM

alexgmcm 5y ago

I mean, don't people learn that at University when they have to live with others? Or maybe if they are in their first job? But when housing costs are such that you have people in their late 20's and early 30's still living with roommates it seems like a societal problem.