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Agreed, and according to this data: https://www.statista.com/chart/20822/way-of-meeting-partner-heterosexual-us-couples/ https://www.statista.com/chart/20822/wa

Agreed, and according to this data: https://www.statista.com/chart/20822/way-of-meeting-partner-heterosexual-us-couples/ https://www.statista.com/chart/20822/way-of-meeting-partner-... it's now the most common way of meeting a partner.

AnIdiotOnTheNet 5y ago
That doesn't mean it is actually good, it just means that there is a lack of alternatives for meeting people. Society seems to be trending towards less and less interaction with other people.
- toxik 5y ago
  This seems like a fairly negative assessment of the facts. I think many people turn to online dating voluntarily, not as some sort of last ditch effort to find a partner. Au contraire, the people I found in the typical settings where you meet new people like bars, night clubs, and doing my hobbies, tended to be a very particular kind of person. I would never have found my current partner in any of those places, and I know the same to be true for many of my friends. Online dating is just increasing your dating surface area by 10-100x fold.
  - AnIdiotOnTheNet 5y ago
    I guess I have a very different experience. I consistently found that online dating (especially Tinder) felt, for lack of a better word, fake, and weirdly like job hunting only worse. The only reason I ever bothered was because nobody seems to do the kinds of things where people used to meet their significant others anymore. People can't even be assed to make plans these days for fuck sake. Personally, I find the whole thing so tedious and terrible that it isn't even worth it.
    - kaesar14 5y ago
      And in my experience I've met my current and loving partner on an app, as have many of my friends. The fact that the majority of couples now meet online (it's actually higher than my graph says, as it counts people who link on an app and then meet at a bar as part of the bar and restaurant category) must mean something is working, for large groups of people.
      - AnIdiotOnTheNet 5y ago
        > something is working, for large groups of people. Yeah, it's called having a mating instinct. People will put up with all sorts of horribleness to satisfy it.
        kaesar14 5y ago
        I mean, I guess? I find it nice having a dedicated channel knowing the person on the other side is single and actively looking for some sort of connection. Treating it as a spontaneous connection the same way you would meeting someone at a coffee shop to get to the first date stage seems to work fine.

AnIdiotOnTheNet 5y ago

That doesn't mean it is actually good, it just means that there is a lack of alternatives for meeting people. Society seems to be trending towards less and less interaction with other people.

toxik 5y ago
This seems like a fairly negative assessment of the facts. I think many people turn to online dating voluntarily, not as some sort of last ditch effort to find a partner. Au contraire, the people I found in the typical settings where you meet new people like bars, night clubs, and doing my hobbies, tended to be a very particular kind of person. I would never have found my current partner in any of those places, and I know the same to be true for many of my friends. Online dating is just increasing your dating surface area by 10-100x fold.
- AnIdiotOnTheNet 5y ago
  I guess I have a very different experience. I consistently found that online dating (especially Tinder) felt, for lack of a better word, fake, and weirdly like job hunting only worse. The only reason I ever bothered was because nobody seems to do the kinds of things where people used to meet their significant others anymore. People can't even be assed to make plans these days for fuck sake. Personally, I find the whole thing so tedious and terrible that it isn't even worth it.
  - kaesar14 5y ago
    And in my experience I've met my current and loving partner on an app, as have many of my friends. The fact that the majority of couples now meet online (it's actually higher than my graph says, as it counts people who link on an app and then meet at a bar as part of the bar and restaurant category) must mean something is working, for large groups of people.
    - AnIdiotOnTheNet 5y ago
      > something is working, for large groups of people. Yeah, it's called having a mating instinct. People will put up with all sorts of horribleness to satisfy it.
      - kaesar14 5y ago
        I mean, I guess? I find it nice having a dedicated channel knowing the person on the other side is single and actively looking for some sort of connection. Treating it as a spontaneous connection the same way you would meeting someone at a coffee shop to get to the first date stage seems to work fine.