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It's what Tinder has become, predominantly. Young attractive women get more than enough attention from social media, they're not even on dating apps as they wer

by Grakel 5y ago

It's what Tinder has become, predominantly. Young attractive women get more than enough attention from social media, they're not even on dating apps as they were a decade ago. I try it once in a while just to see. But the audience is abysmal. Actually easier to go out and meet someone. Which is wonderful, but there was a bright, shining time when you could just chat and meet up on Tinder or OK Cupid.

tsimionescu 5y ago
> Young attractive women get more than enough attention from social media, they're not even on dating apps as they were a decade ago. I think this is a very strange take. Attractive people of any sex or gender get attention in many places. However, attention ismt dating - dating mostly happens in places people go to for dating. That may be bars, college parties, it may be Tinder/Grindr/OKCupid, it may be Instagram/Facebook/TikTok/Snapchat. Sure, some people serendipitously meet their SO in other circumstances, through common friends etc. But by and large, if you want a date, you simply need to be in the one of the places where your peer group dates, online or off. If the new dating app is Instagram, so be it.
- rafale 5y ago
  Attractive women get a lot more attention than attractive men. I think that's common knowledge and is the manifestation of our biology: Men's drive to "chase" women is higher. Testosterone is a hell of a drug. Also, from a reproductive standpoint, women are more valuable. Men's sperm is plentiful. Women's egg and 9 months commitment is the bottleneck. So of course some interesting power dynamics come with that.
  - tsimionescu 5y ago
    Perhaps, but it's irrelevant here. The fact is people who are looking for dates congregate in different places at different times. If Tinder is no longer the place to be, something else has taken its place.
ramesh31 5y ago
>Which is wonderful, but there was a bright, shining time when you could just chat and meet up on Tinder or OK Cupid. Yep. 2013 era Tinder was a completely different world than today.

by Grakel 5y ago

tsimionescu 5y ago

> Young attractive women get more than enough attention from social media, they're not even on dating apps as they were a decade ago. I think this is a very strange take. Attractive people of any sex or gender get attention in many places. However, attention ismt dating - dating mostly happens in places people go to for dating. That may be bars, college parties, it may be Tinder/Grindr/OKCupid, it may be Instagram/Facebook/TikTok/Snapchat. Sure, some people serendipitously meet their SO in other circumstances, through common friends etc. But by and large, if you want a date, you simply need to be in the one of the places where your peer group dates, online or off. If the new dating app is Instagram, so be it.

rafale 5y ago
Attractive women get a lot more attention than attractive men. I think that's common knowledge and is the manifestation of our biology: Men's drive to "chase" women is higher. Testosterone is a hell of a drug. Also, from a reproductive standpoint, women are more valuable. Men's sperm is plentiful. Women's egg and 9 months commitment is the bottleneck. So of course some interesting power dynamics come with that.
- tsimionescu 5y ago
  Perhaps, but it's irrelevant here. The fact is people who are looking for dates congregate in different places at different times. If Tinder is no longer the place to be, something else has taken its place.

ramesh31 5y ago

>Which is wonderful, but there was a bright, shining time when you could just chat and meet up on Tinder or OK Cupid. Yep. 2013 era Tinder was a completely different world than today.