> For some, working hard - physically or intellectually - feels good, so they do it more than others. For others, it does not feel as good, so they don’t do it

> For some, working hard - physically or intellectually - feels good, so they do it more than others. For others, it does not feel as good, so they don’t do it as often. I apply this belief to the act of forming human relationships. Unfortunately, failing to remain interested in people long enough until they can act as your support network might lead to dire consequences. I'm still debating whether or not human contact should be considered a human need, instead of just a human want. Denying someone food or water is cruel, but denying someone else your friendship or attention is considered healthy if the person is too much of a burden to be worth the effort. I once had someone I considered my friend suddenly start to explain to me what the definition of "codependent" was, and shortly after I could no longer view them as a friend. At that point, all you're left with are the people who will forgive you no matter how you act and no matter how long you've known them, whom are nearly impossible to find outside of compensated therapeutic relationships. I suspect that most of them are already giving that limited store of attention to someone else or were taken advantage of in the past.