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There is also the notion of “hard work” - like WHY are some people hard working and others are not? Is hard work more pleasurable for some people than others? W

There is also the notion of “hard work” - like WHY are some people hard working and others are not? Is hard work more pleasurable for some people than others? Why do some choose to work hard and others do not? I’d contend it is also a kind of luck. If you can change how hard working you are, what determines HOW much you can change? Can everyone go from the laziest person to the most hard-working person? If not, why? I tend to think, like intelligence, hard working-ness for everyone falls somewhere on a distribution. For some, working hard - physically or intellectually - feels good, so they do it more than others. For others, it does not feel as good, so they don’t do it as often. As someone who’s likely on the upper end of the “hard working” distribution, I have no pretenses about why I fall where I do. I like the sensation. I didn’t choose it. I just do what I do and that’s it, and I have ever since I was a little kid. Some people do not like “hard work” and we shouldn’t blame them for it.

nonbirithm 5y ago
> For some, working hard - physically or intellectually - feels good, so they do it more than others. For others, it does not feel as good, so they don’t do it as often. I apply this belief to the act of forming human relationships. Unfortunately, failing to remain interested in people long enough until they can act as your support network might lead to dire consequences. I'm still debating whether or not human contact should be considered a human need, instead of just a human want. Denying someone food or water is cruel, but denying someone else your friendship or attention is considered healthy if the person is too much of a burden to be worth the effort. I once had someone I considered my friend suddenly start to explain to me what the definition of "codependent" was, and shortly after I could no longer view them as a friend. At that point, all you're left with are the people who will forgive you no matter how you act and no matter how long you've known them, whom are nearly impossible to find outside of compensated therapeutic relationships. I suspect that most of them are already giving that limited store of attention to someone else or were taken advantage of in the past.

nonbirithm 5y ago

> For some, working hard - physically or intellectually - feels good, so they do it more than others. For others, it does not feel as good, so they don’t do it as often. I apply this belief to the act of forming human relationships. Unfortunately, failing to remain interested in people long enough until they can act as your support network might lead to dire consequences. I'm still debating whether or not human contact should be considered a human need, instead of just a human want. Denying someone food or water is cruel, but denying someone else your friendship or attention is considered healthy if the person is too much of a burden to be worth the effort. I once had someone I considered my friend suddenly start to explain to me what the definition of "codependent" was, and shortly after I could no longer view them as a friend. At that point, all you're left with are the people who will forgive you no matter how you act and no matter how long you've known them, whom are nearly impossible to find outside of compensated therapeutic relationships. I suspect that most of them are already giving that limited store of attention to someone else or were taken advantage of in the past.