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So, if I get offended because I see someone shout out at an Indian woman crossing the street "Fuck off back to pakiland you dirty paki", I've made the situation

So, if I get offended because I see someone shout out at an Indian woman crossing the street "Fuck off back to pakiland you dirty paki", I've made the situation worse? Can you explain what I should do in such a situation, or even better, what would you do?

wccrawford 15y ago
That's an verbal attack, not just an offensive statement. It's quite a different category than taking a picture with a woman using her boobs as O's in a logo. The woman in the photo obviously wasn't offended. Most other women apparently aren't, either. But for some reason, MEN feel the need to make a big deal out of this situation. If a female blogger were writing to say she was offended by this situation, I'd be paying a lot more heed. People talk about equality and all, but when it comes down to it, the people defending 'women' from this are actually worse than the people that supposedly caused an offense! Wrap your head around this: Why are men getting up in arms about this? Because they think women need their protection. They are playing right into the sexism by thinking women can't handle this on their own. If women can't handle this on their own, they're welcome to say so, and I'll jump on a white horse myself. They aren't saying that here. Or ANYWHERE that I've seen lately. I'm apparently one of the few men out there that actually believe a woman can handle things. They aren't inferior; They don't -need- my help. So everyone should heed their own advice and back off.
- urbanjunkie 15y ago
  Well, you didn't qualify your original statement. So, if I hear 3 people making a whole load of racist comments in a bus, but not directed at a specific person, should I ignore it? I'm Indian by birth, and have lived through a lot of racism. I'm not inferior, and I would never have gone begging for help, but I'd sure have appreciated people intervening at times, even when I wasn't under direct attack. In the UK, women are typically paid 15% less than men for equivalent jobs. Should I say nothing about this?

wccrawford 15y ago

That's an verbal attack, not just an offensive statement. It's quite a different category than taking a picture with a woman using her boobs as O's in a logo. The woman in the photo obviously wasn't offended. Most other women apparently aren't, either. But for some reason, MEN feel the need to make a big deal out of this situation. If a female blogger were writing to say she was offended by this situation, I'd be paying a lot more heed. People talk about equality and all, but when it comes down to it, the people defending 'women' from this are actually worse than the people that supposedly caused an offense! Wrap your head around this: Why are men getting up in arms about this? Because they think women need their protection. They are playing right into the sexism by thinking women can't handle this on their own. If women can't handle this on their own, they're welcome to say so, and I'll jump on a white horse myself. They aren't saying that here. Or ANYWHERE that I've seen lately. I'm apparently one of the few men out there that actually believe a woman can handle things. They aren't inferior; They don't -need- my help. So everyone should heed their own advice and back off.

urbanjunkie 15y ago
Well, you didn't qualify your original statement. So, if I hear 3 people making a whole load of racist comments in a bus, but not directed at a specific person, should I ignore it? I'm Indian by birth, and have lived through a lot of racism. I'm not inferior, and I would never have gone begging for help, but I'd sure have appreciated people intervening at times, even when I wasn't under direct attack. In the UK, women are typically paid 15% less than men for equivalent jobs. Should I say nothing about this?