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I met with a Director at a local consulting firm a couple of days ago and while discussing the growing mobile practice at his firm and talking of the team in ch
by Cherian_Abraham 15y ago
I met with a Director at a local consulting firm a couple of days ago and while discussing the growing mobile practice at his firm and talking of the team in charge of it, he referred to the lady who held the reins in growing the practice, and how effective she is and how hungry she is, in growing it.
And then he made the comment that she being all that, is also "easy on the eyes". I flinched, but held my tongue and it bothered me afterwards enough to think why he felt compelled to put that out there, especially to someone he just met.
I agree the problem is pervasive, whether its against women, minorities or the guy down the hallway.
- hackinthebochs 15y agoI don't see this as necessarily a problem. The fact is, men judge how women look and will comment on it when among other men; so do women. There's nothing inherently sexist about saying a woman is good looking. It was probably more his attempt to relate to you on a personal level.
- Scriptor 15y agoThere are different situations where commenting on looks is appropriate and when it isn't. If the two know each other well as friends then that's just guys commenting on a woman's looks. The line between professional and friendly discussion in blurred anyway. Like you said, women do the same thing when amongst friends. If they didn't know each other that well then all discussion should stay mostly professional. If a comment like this is made then it either indicates that the Director considers women's looks part of a professional appraising of their abilities or he is awkward at making conversation.
- AndrewDucker 15y agoActually, I work with a load of men (and a chunk of women), and this kind of conversation never comes up in the office, because it is understood to be deeply inappropriate for a work environment.
- rokhayakebe 15y agoYour work place must be one in a million. (Not that is bad or good, just different).
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- rokhayakebe 15y agoI agree. Men talk about women. Women talk about men.