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Although we like to think marriage is based on love, he says, it “also is fundamentally an economic transaction,” and women want partners whom they can call the

Although we like to think marriage is based on love, he says, it “also is fundamentally an economic transaction,” and women want partners whom they can call their equals. Something does not add up here and I’m calling general BS in this entire article. In one sense its laughing at men by saying women are earning more than you, but on the other, it puts forth this idea that women only care about money and status. That is just not true. Ask yourself: How many women have turned you down because they earn more than you? How did this ever get through editorial?

wwweston 5y ago
In general, I think it's pretty rare that anyone gets comprehensive and accurate information about why they've been rejected. :) However, you can make some inferences about how it works by what people complain about in their propsect pool.
rektide 5y ago
I do think every single "real" man has a better prism of assessment that they filter by than this. and women too. implying that the narrow, easier to gauge, objectified dimensions are a critical priority is a neg to an opposing gender, when levelled by a delicate gender that thinks highly of itself, of it's competency, capabilities, & greatness, even when often lacking qualificands to prove so.
batiudrami 5y ago
This is bad news for me since my partner earns twice what I do (and her hourly rate is triple mine!)
hdjjhhvvhga 5y ago
I don't believe they care only about money and status. When you decide to enter a lifelong relationship, you can't ignore the economic status of your partner, no matter what gender you are. If you marry a person who is in debt, or has children to support, it will influence your economic situation. In general, being together is net-positive by default because you share costs. In addition, it is quite normal in marriage to share at least a part of the income and properties owned and acquired before and after marriage, directly and indirectly. It does not mean money is the only factor, but is definitely an important one, with the importance being proportional to the difference between the two. It is socially accepted we don't discuss these things openly, but it doesn't mean they don't exist, sociology has been studying it for decades.

wwweston 5y ago

In general, I think it's pretty rare that anyone gets comprehensive and accurate information about why they've been rejected. :) However, you can make some inferences about how it works by what people complain about in their propsect pool.

rektide 5y ago

I do think every single "real" man has a better prism of assessment that they filter by than this. and women too. implying that the narrow, easier to gauge, objectified dimensions are a critical priority is a neg to an opposing gender, when levelled by a delicate gender that thinks highly of itself, of it's competency, capabilities, & greatness, even when often lacking qualificands to prove so.

batiudrami 5y ago

This is bad news for me since my partner earns twice what I do (and her hourly rate is triple mine!)

hdjjhhvvhga 5y ago

I don't believe they care only about money and status. When you decide to enter a lifelong relationship, you can't ignore the economic status of your partner, no matter what gender you are. If you marry a person who is in debt, or has children to support, it will influence your economic situation. In general, being together is net-positive by default because you share costs. In addition, it is quite normal in marriage to share at least a part of the income and properties owned and acquired before and after marriage, directly and indirectly. It does not mean money is the only factor, but is definitely an important one, with the importance being proportional to the difference between the two. It is socially accepted we don't discuss these things openly, but it doesn't mean they don't exist, sociology has been studying it for decades.