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Funny as you're twisting what I said. I'm really tempted to wonder if it's because of culture war, or your subconscious feels a bit guilty. Probably culture war

Funny as you're twisting what I said. I'm really tempted to wonder if it's because of culture war, or your subconscious feels a bit guilty. Probably culture war. I called inhuman being certain that you'll never randomly flirting with any young women you're working with, over many years. Not exactly what you're saying, is it? Also for the record, most 17 years old are attractive. They're not dateable if you're older, not relationship material, illegal to have sex with in certain legislation, a bad idea to in most cases and so on. But attractive? Why wouldn't they be? Ah, because you called them "minors". I'm sorry for you, if you really live in that world. Edit: should have probably used a less harsh tone. Sorry. I'll blame it on being misinterpreted so badly, but still.

KittenInABox 5y ago
In this specific context it's about someone sending a sexual message to a minor. There's nothing inhuman about not doing that, and excusing it as something all straight men do when around women is bizarre.
- radu_floricica 5y ago
  Back to the motorcycle metaphor. It's about risk management. You don't go out riding your bike expecting to fall. But you wear your helmet and take other measures because you also don't expect to never fall over 10 years of riding. What I'm saying is: if the risk of mentoring young women is a sudden career end (possibly the greatest such risk), men will start taking it into consideration. Some will just be extra careful around women. Some will just decide it's not worth it. Also, there's another thing I wanted so say from the beginning. People keep throwing around ideas like "you should never date people you're in a position of power over". Sure, when that position is that of a teacher, (foster) parent or coach, I totally agree it's a bad idea, most of the time. But if, like Aubrey, you're at the top of your professional domain... who exactly are you going to date? You're working, talking and socializing with people in your professional area 99% of the time. Yeah, you should pay extra care, but in the end you'll still end up dating in the same pool.
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KittenInABox 5y ago

In this specific context it's about someone sending a sexual message to a minor. There's nothing inhuman about not doing that, and excusing it as something all straight men do when around women is bizarre.

radu_floricica 5y ago
Back to the motorcycle metaphor. It's about risk management. You don't go out riding your bike expecting to fall. But you wear your helmet and take other measures because you also don't expect to never fall over 10 years of riding. What I'm saying is: if the risk of mentoring young women is a sudden career end (possibly the greatest such risk), men will start taking it into consideration. Some will just be extra careful around women. Some will just decide it's not worth it. Also, there's another thing I wanted so say from the beginning. People keep throwing around ideas like "you should never date people you're in a position of power over". Sure, when that position is that of a teacher, (foster) parent or coach, I totally agree it's a bad idea, most of the time. But if, like Aubrey, you're at the top of your professional domain... who exactly are you going to date? You're working, talking and socializing with people in your professional area 99% of the time. Yeah, you should pay extra care, but in the end you'll still end up dating in the same pool.
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