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I find it often useful to be able to go back and search through conversations. Even trivial things can become part of a richer back and forth if you can rememb

I find it often useful to be able to go back and search through conversations. Even trivial things can become part of a richer back and forth if you can remember + reference them. It helps keep the oblivion of forgetting at bay, which is for me terrifying and really depressing. People who turn on transient messaging, it's their right, and I get it, but it's also hobbling me from doing what I'm quite good at and basically exposing what's for me an upsetting functional disability, which bums me out a bit. (If I really cared I could take notes elsewhere, yes, but jeeze that's a lot of work for daily chitchat)

mnsc 5y ago
"You say you don't want to go out for drinks with me because you're 'cutting back on alcohol', yet curiously I found in our chat log that you two years ago, almost to the day, said, and I quoute 'Thos cutting back on alcohol are just pussies, I will _never_ [your emphasis not mine] cut back on alcohol, life's just to much fun drunk! =DDDD lol'. So I guess you are lying and just don't want to hang out with me anymore!?! :´( I fucking hate you!" Like that?
- EvanAnderson 5y ago
  That sounds awful and certainly not what I was thinking about in the GP post. That's not to say that having a persistent log of communication might not expose someone's pattern of lying. If it did I'd definitely incorporate that knowledge into how I interact with that person. It's not something I'd ever state explicitly, nor that I'd necessarily tell anybody else, but it would be factored-in to how I deal with that person.
EvanAnderson 5y ago
My electronic devices are extensions of my biological memory. Just as I don't want my biological memories to fade (and, as you say, that thought is upsetting to me) I don't want my electronic memories to fade either. I don't have life experience that makes me wish to forget. I recognize other people do but I also can't honestly say I understand it. Hopefully I never will since I can only assume the wish to forget accompanies traumatic memories.

mnsc 5y ago

"You say you don't want to go out for drinks with me because you're 'cutting back on alcohol', yet curiously I found in our chat log that you two years ago, almost to the day, said, and I quoute 'Thos cutting back on alcohol are just pussies, I will _never_ [your emphasis not mine] cut back on alcohol, life's just to much fun drunk! =DDDD lol'. So I guess you are lying and just don't want to hang out with me anymore!?! :´( I fucking hate you!" Like that?

EvanAnderson 5y ago
That sounds awful and certainly not what I was thinking about in the GP post. That's not to say that having a persistent log of communication might not expose someone's pattern of lying. If it did I'd definitely incorporate that knowledge into how I interact with that person. It's not something I'd ever state explicitly, nor that I'd necessarily tell anybody else, but it would be factored-in to how I deal with that person.

EvanAnderson 5y ago

My electronic devices are extensions of my biological memory. Just as I don't want my biological memories to fade (and, as you say, that thought is upsetting to me) I don't want my electronic memories to fade either. I don't have life experience that makes me wish to forget. I recognize other people do but I also can't honestly say I understand it. Hopefully I never will since I can only assume the wish to forget accompanies traumatic memories.