On the other hand my family learned the opposite lesson (without assistance from me). They essentially deny every such permission request and for the few they

On the other hand my family learned the opposite lesson (without assistance from me). They essentially deny every such permission request and for the few they actually care about (getting notifications from 2 or 3 of the 50 apps that want notification access) they come and asked for assistance. One of the nice things about the iOS ecosystem is that apps aren’t allowed to be nonfunctional if you deny them access to something.