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"As she found one error after another, he became more and more amused, rather than more and more defensive[.]" This has to be one of the snowballing keys to su
by sdwr 5y ago
"As she found one error after another, he became more and more amused, rather than more and more defensive[.]"
This has to be one of the snowballing keys to success. Soliciting and rewarding negative feedback, in a way that doesn't threaten the overall.
Works for bugs in code, also for life stuff. Being teased/mocked gives incentive and direction for positive change, so long as it doesnt send one spiralling.
- yobbo 5y agoUnambiguity about right or wrong is necessary here. It exists when finding bugs, but not in more subtle things. For example, asking a junior for feedback as a friendly gesture and exposing him to an interesting problem. If he then takes the opportunity to one-up by explaining his naive opinions about irrelevant details, do you ignore him? He will experience it as being marginalised or "gate-kept". The problem is that youngish guys have so much ego invested in feeling smart.