I agree that it is, or can be, a matter of "choice", but that's a subtle thing. What does it mean to "choose" or "want" something when you have conflicting moti

I agree that it is, or can be, a matter of "choice", but that's a subtle thing. What does it mean to "choose" or "want" something when you have conflicting motives, when you both enjoy and hate the same thing, even at the same time? I think a large part of reaching emotional maturity (for some people at least, me included) is about resolving those conflicts and achieving a sort of unity of self. This often involves letting some parts of yourself go, deciding not to be a particular person any more, which the "addiction" may only be one aspect of. In my case I finally succeeded in quitting smoking, after 9 years of 20-30 a day and innumerable failed attempts to stop, just after I got married, 18 years ago. It was easy.