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I wouldn’t advise anybody to marry someone unsupportive.

by yuppie_scum 5y ago

avmich 5y ago
Even if the alternative is not to marry? Does it depends on weights of preferences?
- deleted 5y ago
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- MyHypatia 5y ago
  For your health and happiness, it is better not to marry if the marriage is an unhappy one. There have been many studies on how marriage impacts the health of men and women. Happily married people have better health outcomes than single people. Unhappily married people have worse health outcomes. From one of the articles I cite below, "Marital stress is associated with lifestyle risk factors and nonadherence to medical regimens. Poor marital quality is also linked with more depression, hostility and anger, all risk factors for coronary heart disease. Thus, marital status and quality could influence metabolic risk factors and acute stress responses, which in turn predict cardio-vascular morbidity and mortality, according to the study." https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/marriage-and-mens-health https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/marriage-and-mens... https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2003/09/marital-benefit https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2003/09/marital-bene...
  - nate_meurer 5y ago
    "Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife." - Proverbs 21:9 "To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion" - The Apostle Paul, 1 Corinthians 7:8-9.
scarmig 5y ago
The issue is that the "supportive" quality high achieving women look for is different from the "supportive" quality high achieving men look for. Essentially, the modal supportive wife wouldn't be given the time of day by potential high achieving female spouses if her gender were switched. What (straight) women value in a mate is very different from what (straight) men value in a mate.

I wouldn’t advise anybody to marry someone unsupportive.

avmich 5y ago

Even if the alternative is not to marry? Does it depends on weights of preferences?

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MyHypatia 5y ago
For your health and happiness, it is better not to marry if the marriage is an unhappy one. There have been many studies on how marriage impacts the health of men and women. Happily married people have better health outcomes than single people. Unhappily married people have worse health outcomes. From one of the articles I cite below, "Marital stress is associated with lifestyle risk factors and nonadherence to medical regimens. Poor marital quality is also linked with more depression, hostility and anger, all risk factors for coronary heart disease. Thus, marital status and quality could influence metabolic risk factors and acute stress responses, which in turn predict cardio-vascular morbidity and mortality, according to the study." https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/marriage-and-mens-health https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/marriage-and-mens... https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2003/09/marital-benefit https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2003/09/marital-bene...
- nate_meurer 5y ago
  "Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife." - Proverbs 21:9 "To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion" - The Apostle Paul, 1 Corinthians 7:8-9.

scarmig 5y ago

The issue is that the "supportive" quality high achieving women look for is different from the "supportive" quality high achieving men look for. Essentially, the modal supportive wife wouldn't be given the time of day by potential high achieving female spouses if her gender were switched. What (straight) women value in a mate is very different from what (straight) men value in a mate.