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> you just haven't had the practice/opportunity to develop this side of things That is one way of saying that he simply has not allowed trivial concepts like a

> you just haven't had the practice/opportunity to develop this side of things That is one way of saying that he simply has not allowed trivial concepts like a bunch of boring pictures to affect his mood. Another way of saying this would be "that sounds good, I wish I were not so affected by these things but alas, I am" or "lucky you, maybe I can find a way to avoid these mind traps". There is no strength in weakness or defeat, there is no virtue in negativity or pessimism nor is the world a better place for people being triggered by a bunch of boring pictures. Just don't look at the damn things if they bore you, I never do - I just click the link for the audio version.

jquery 5y ago
You missed the point of the comment. It was saying it does affect his mood, he just doesn’t have the EQ to realize it consciously. And to be honest, and someone who finally started getting in touch with his emotions by branching out my hobbies and interests… I see exactly where both comments are coming from. Saying it doesn’t affect his mood is like a kid who claims they don’t suffer from sugar crashes, or people who claim their diet and mood are unrelated. Conscious awareness of mood is not necessary for it to affect behavior.
- latexr 5y ago
  > It was saying it does affect his mood, he just doesn’t have the EQ to realize it consciously. Consider the possibility that someone might indeed not get depressed from looking at a couple of street photographs for a minute. That having to fill a CAPTCHA can in itself be so annoying that the content of the images becomes irrelevant. Or that someone who (in their words) lives “in a third world country” might have bigger concerns which render banal pictures as truly innocuous in their mind. Use your emotional awareness. Empathy is about opening yourself to the feelings and reality of another, not about extrapolating your own emotions into them.
arpa 5y ago
> there is no virtue in negativity or pessimism if we're oblivous to even the smallest things (boring pictures) that negatively impact us, we hinder ourselves to making the world better. And that's not something we want, everything is shit already. Oh and this whole "Just don't" dissmissal... Check your privilege, man, and develop some damn empathy.
- the_third_wave 5y ago
  > Oh and this whole "Just don't" dissmissal... Check your privilege, man, and develop some damn empathy. Soft healers make smelly wounds [1]: British Journal of Guidance & Counselling, v47 n2 p200-209 2019 Genuine happiness is impossible without authentic concern for and corresponding behaviour towards the well-being of others. Such an incorporation of others into the self refers to a "democratic self" and the related regard for the common good. The author argues that the honesty of professionals who work in or for an educational or vocational setting is vital for the good of the individual and the common good. By introducing "democratic selves", recent advancements in Dialogical Self Theory (DST) point to an inclusion of the common good. However, given the importance of virtues for one's own and the common good, the theory and its applications are in need of integrating virtues *and in particular honesty.* Also, drop the "privilege" stuff, this is not twitter. [1] https://eric.ed.gov/?id=EJ1216616 https://eric.ed.gov/?id=EJ1216616
  - arpa 5y ago
    If you can "JUST don't" (a privilege), it doesn't mean someone else can "JUST don't". You're being an asshole, not "honest". also you probably meant tumblr, not twitter.
    - the_third_wave 5y ago
      Go back to the root cause here: boring images cause someone to become depressed. My advice is to refrain from looking at the things, your approach is to pat the person on the head. You can try to spin it into a long meandering rant about the vicariousness of life and the eternity of suffering which makes it all so much richer but when all that seems to do is cause depression it is clearly not the right path unless you consider depression to be virtuous. Also, twitter, not tumblr. I've never been to tumblr and I try to avoid twitter but from what I've seen of the place it is full of keyboard-side vicars full of holier-than-thou attitude which they're wont to express in 140 characters or less.
      - arpa 5y ago

jquery 5y ago

You missed the point of the comment. It was saying it does affect his mood, he just doesn’t have the EQ to realize it consciously. And to be honest, and someone who finally started getting in touch with his emotions by branching out my hobbies and interests… I see exactly where both comments are coming from. Saying it doesn’t affect his mood is like a kid who claims they don’t suffer from sugar crashes, or people who claim their diet and mood are unrelated. Conscious awareness of mood is not necessary for it to affect behavior.

latexr 5y ago
> It was saying it does affect his mood, he just doesn’t have the EQ to realize it consciously. Consider the possibility that someone might indeed not get depressed from looking at a couple of street photographs for a minute. That having to fill a CAPTCHA can in itself be so annoying that the content of the images becomes irrelevant. Or that someone who (in their words) lives “in a third world country” might have bigger concerns which render banal pictures as truly innocuous in their mind. Use your emotional awareness. Empathy is about opening yourself to the feelings and reality of another, not about extrapolating your own emotions into them.

arpa 5y ago

> there is no virtue in negativity or pessimism if we're oblivous to even the smallest things (boring pictures) that negatively impact us, we hinder ourselves to making the world better. And that's not something we want, everything is shit already. Oh and this whole "Just don't" dissmissal... Check your privilege, man, and develop some damn empathy.

the_third_wave 5y ago
> Oh and this whole "Just don't" dissmissal... Check your privilege, man, and develop some damn empathy. Soft healers make smelly wounds [1]: British Journal of Guidance & Counselling, v47 n2 p200-209 2019 Genuine happiness is impossible without authentic concern for and corresponding behaviour towards the well-being of others. Such an incorporation of others into the self refers to a "democratic self" and the related regard for the common good. The author argues that the honesty of professionals who work in or for an educational or vocational setting is vital for the good of the individual and the common good. By introducing "democratic selves", recent advancements in Dialogical Self Theory (DST) point to an inclusion of the common good. However, given the importance of virtues for one's own and the common good, the theory and its applications are in need of integrating virtues *and in particular honesty.* Also, drop the "privilege" stuff, this is not twitter. [1] https://eric.ed.gov/?id=EJ1216616 https://eric.ed.gov/?id=EJ1216616
- arpa 5y ago
  If you can "JUST don't" (a privilege), it doesn't mean someone else can "JUST don't". You're being an asshole, not "honest". also you probably meant tumblr, not twitter.
  - the_third_wave 5y ago
    Go back to the root cause here: boring images cause someone to become depressed. My advice is to refrain from looking at the things, your approach is to pat the person on the head. You can try to spin it into a long meandering rant about the vicariousness of life and the eternity of suffering which makes it all so much richer but when all that seems to do is cause depression it is clearly not the right path unless you consider depression to be virtuous. Also, twitter, not tumblr. I've never been to tumblr and I try to avoid twitter but from what I've seen of the place it is full of keyboard-side vicars full of holier-than-thou attitude which they're wont to express in 140 characters or less.
    - arpa 5y ago