> Then I read the first comment on this HN thread, which is directly comparing this to Toronto. > [...] Reminds me of learning a new language, where beginners

> Then I read the first comment on this HN thread, which is directly comparing this to Toronto. > [...] Reminds me of learning a new language, where beginners try to formulate thoughts in their native tongue and produce a direct translation, whereas those who are fluent can skip that step completely. Immigrant brown man living in Toronto here. I don't have any dating life. Because dating a brown man is stigmatized, thanks to racism and media representation. My upper-middle class white therapist couldn't believe that I am at the bottom tier in the dating market. So it's not just some language or cultural barrier. People have hard times understanding the predicaments of people from lower socio-economic strata even when they live in the same city and speak same language.