Often you will need the person to bottom out if they are stubborn. Your job is to control what that bottom is (not death, not financial ruin). Does he/she know

Often you will need the person to bottom out if they are stubborn. Your job is to control what that bottom is (not death, not financial ruin). Does he/she know that you can possibly leave? They are not valuing things properly anymore, so you have to jump start that. I will speak out against professional help since I know many cases (anecdotal) where such help doesn’t work or reinforces the problem. My own depression came out of entitlement. I didn’t know I could actually get sadder (which inevitably happened), and it bumped everything back into perspective. It’s a perception issue imho. You think this is as sad as you can get, well let me show you. Guide him/her through the shadow of the valley of death, and let them see the bottom. Scared straight works.