Dude... > We physically hurt each other. > But, was it an open, inviting environment? No. > It was very unwelcoming and harsh to anybody but our own characte

Dude... > We physically hurt each other. > But, was it an open, inviting environment? No. > It was very unwelcoming and harsh to anybody but our own character type I hate physical violence. You don't seem to keep it in focus here. Like I said, you extrapolate too much, its obvious now. It should be unwelcoming and harsh to other character types, because that is the character type that we need to finish the job in this ecosystem. Its even the opposite of what you claim - we have a dude who was playing according to the rules you mention, and now he "switched" to our side because he realized that sometimes, strong words is the only way to make something happen :) There is a saying here "the beating came out of heaven". > I would encourage you to try to reach beyond your current group, there is much to discover. No thanks. I am not that young as you seem to think. > I bet that you can be more welcoming, more pleasant to work with People just love to work with me - both colleagues and stakeholders, because I get the job done and because they think my reactions are unique and funny. You please continue to be pleasant, that is probably great skill to have in supermarket, not in my line of work where people expect results yesterday :) You see, you can theorize all you want, you cant fight the facts. Also, this is not set in stone - if certain situation requires me to be nice little puppy in order to get the job done, I will do it. Like I said, context is everything, and life is a mess, while you can keep pretending you play board game with strictly set rules everybody is following... > Try not to identify yourself completely with this group you are now in. If anything, they are quite rare and not universally loved. "Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to reflect"