It's like dating. They are what they are and you want what you want, and telling them, "well maybe I would be happy if you changed in these specific ways" is ju

It's like dating. They are what they are and you want what you want, and telling them, "well maybe I would be happy if you changed in these specific ways" is just not going to work for you or them. Not if you drop hints, not if you drop ultimatums. They are what they are. Just go find what you think will make you happy.