I wonder if there's an age component. I'm mid-40s. There's zero expectation that people make late-breaking plans to go party downtown (as would have been the

I wonder if there's an age component. I'm mid-40s. There's zero expectation that people make late-breaking plans to go party downtown (as would have been the case in my 20s). And some friends have kids, which just complicates things more. At the end of the day "nah, I have [life] going on" is a completely normal response.