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You're implying that you somehow are entitled to having the weddings you want to attend be near your place of residence. Why would the people getting married pr

by lagadu 5y ago

You're implying that you somehow are entitled to having the weddings you want to attend be near your place of residence. Why would the people getting married prioritize your entitlement over them having the party where they'd enjoy having it? It's their party, your being invited at all is already a courtesy being extended to you.

SapporoChris 5y ago
My thought process is optimization for all the guests. Doing some simple math: Cost of holding wedding at location X + cost of wedding attendents travel + cost of lodging at location X vs the same costs at location Y. Not surprising, the location where the majority of the attendents reside is usually the most economical for the total cost the wedding for all involved. I do understand that it is the couples wedding and they can choose where they want to hold it. I am surprised that more couples (in my limited experience) do not consider their guests expenses more.
- c618b9b695c4 5y ago
  You are assuming they want all of the guests to attend. Plenty of family and friend obligations that become socially awkward to snub. Destination wedding will eliminate some percentage of guests who "do not matter", which has the side benefit of reducing the venue expense.
Haliocioto 5y ago
Interesting how different perspectives are on such topics. When we got married, our goal was to have a great party for everyone we invited. Which included thinking about were our wedding is, making sure our Guests have a great time and that the photographer would make sure to also take pictures of and for them as you normally dress for the event. I would personally not care about a wedding without guests and i wouldn't care about random guests. Therefore my mental conclusion is, that its the guests who are a critical part of our wedding and therefore they do serve being accounted for. Of course if i would marry somewhere totally different, i would make it much smaller to put less pressure on my guests but i was really happy to have nearly my whole family taking part in our wedding. But it probably depends on your expectation. If you don't mind your guests not coming due to costs and effort, its probably valid as well.

by lagadu 5y ago

SapporoChris 5y ago

My thought process is optimization for all the guests. Doing some simple math: Cost of holding wedding at location X + cost of wedding attendents travel + cost of lodging at location X vs the same costs at location Y. Not surprising, the location where the majority of the attendents reside is usually the most economical for the total cost the wedding for all involved. I do understand that it is the couples wedding and they can choose where they want to hold it. I am surprised that more couples (in my limited experience) do not consider their guests expenses more.

c618b9b695c4 5y ago
You are assuming they want all of the guests to attend. Plenty of family and friend obligations that become socially awkward to snub. Destination wedding will eliminate some percentage of guests who "do not matter", which has the side benefit of reducing the venue expense.

Haliocioto 5y ago

Interesting how different perspectives are on such topics. When we got married, our goal was to have a great party for everyone we invited. Which included thinking about were our wedding is, making sure our Guests have a great time and that the photographer would make sure to also take pictures of and for them as you normally dress for the event. I would personally not care about a wedding without guests and i wouldn't care about random guests. Therefore my mental conclusion is, that its the guests who are a critical part of our wedding and therefore they do serve being accounted for. Of course if i would marry somewhere totally different, i would make it much smaller to put less pressure on my guests but i was really happy to have nearly my whole family taking part in our wedding. But it probably depends on your expectation. If you don't mind your guests not coming due to costs and effort, its probably valid as well.