There was a period in my life where other peoples' weddings basically dictated my vacation planning. I was extremely happy to go to as many weddings as I could!

There was a period in my life where other peoples' weddings basically dictated my vacation planning. I was extremely happy to go to as many weddings as I could! I was single and most of the weddings were where I was going to fly anyway. On the same token, when I got married the vast majority of my guests traveled by plane. One of my aunts had a lot going on in her life and didn't want to fly out for a few days. I totally understood and respect her priorities. It was a lot to ask of her to fly out. (Most of my extended family welcomed the excuse to take a large extended family trip together.) Another friend declined. He certainly "could afford it," but I didn't feel like there was any obligation on his part to put the time and money into travel. I had so many "mandatory" group activities growing up that I just accept that people will say no to invites. We live in busy times, and I think the most well-adjusted people know how to keep control in their lives.